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How to manage my anger?

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Steaknife · 14/07/2009 12:57

I want to find a way to stop my anger getting out of control. I mostly cope well with day to day stresses but every so often i get angry over a little thing. Really angry and i cant let the issue go. I push and push until dh and i are at crisis. Afterwards i can see what i should have done but at the time my reason goes out of the window. I am on St johns wort for pnd as dr wont prescribe anything else. This happens about once a month at the mo though it has+been+a+less+frequent+pattern+before.+Is+it+depression,+pnd+or+just+a+really+big+tantrum?

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Steaknife · 14/07/2009 13:11

Sorry posting from phone

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MitchyInge · 14/07/2009 19:31

why won't the doctor give you anything else? possibly the SJW is contributing to your irritability, but that is often how depression manifests itself so perhaps it's just not enough for you

MIND might run anger management classes in your area, or maybe you would benefit from general relaxation/stress reduction exercises?

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Steaknife · 14/07/2009 20:26

MitchyInchge - (I always admire your name) we are in France and Dr wont prescribe anything else as says that they are unsafe in terms of bfing, I am not sure if this is a national stance or a personal stance of his. He would only prescribe if I stopped BFing which I did not want to do for various reasons.

But I am not sure if it is PND or episodes of depression or just poor anger management skills.

I don't think of myself as an angry person but when I get cross I feel I HAVE to get my point across and I HAVE to keep arguing until the other person sees my POV. Rather than saying "I am cross about this" having a shout and letting it go. IYSWIM

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MitchyInge · 14/07/2009 21:32

I think in the UK if there is any sort of consensus it's that in moderate to severe depression better to use ADs when breastfeeding than not - wish my friend who is an academic psych was around to ask, this is an area of interest for him.

Would you say that this need to argue is typical of how you manage conflict normally or not?

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Steaknife · 14/07/2009 21:57

I don't think it is necessarily a need to argue rather than a need to feel that my pov has been listened to and taken on board, even if the final outcome is not on my side.

I don't have to be right all the time and I don't have to get my own way all the time. But if I think I have a valid point then I want to be heard and that is where my problem comes, sometimes I can't just let go of an argument. Or more to the point, I can't always see that i need to let go of the argument.