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What am i going to do i feel so upset and down ;(

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ilovemy2babies Sat 06-Jun-09 16:08:43

Hi everyone im really in need of some advice im really upset and dont know what to do. Im having a few problems with someone at work and she thinks i have something against her which i dont. Anyway she told me the other day that quite a few people have noticed this, its really upset me because now i feel like everyone hates me and i feel like such a horrible person.
It probably sounds really pathetic and childish its like been back at school! The thing is i cant get the thought out of my head that im a horrible person, ive felt like this for a long time i have no relationship with my dad and the only reason i can think why is because im a horrible person and he must really hate me.
These problems at work have bought all these bad memories back, im scared about going back to work next week incase everyone hates me and im worried i might get upset, everyone will think im pathetic getting upset over this person that has a problem with me but im not upset about that im upst about my dad.
What am i going to do?

ABitStretched Sat 06-Jun-09 16:28:16

Firstly - you are not a horrible person. If someone is genuinely nasty, vindictive or generally unpleasant to be around it would never cross their mind that they were unreasonable.

Secondly you clearly have underlying problems about your relationship, or lack of it, with your dad - you need to talk to a pro about this because otherwise it will just keep popping up and upsetting you.

Sorry I don't have any practical advice about how to feel better about going back to work - i know its awful to feel like you don't want to go but knowing you have to. Whenever I have the misfortune of encoutering the human races less desirable members I think to myself 'yes it was awful being with them for an hour / all day etc, but poor them, they will be them for their whole lives - how miserable.'

ABitStretched Sat 06-Jun-09 16:28:19

Firstly - you are not a horrible person. If someone is genuinely nasty, vindictive or generally unpleasant to be around it would never cross their mind that they were unreasonable.

Secondly you clearly have underlying problems about your relationship, or lack of it, with your dad - you need to talk to a pro about this because otherwise it will just keep popping up and upsetting you.

Sorry I don't have any practical advice about how to feel better about going back to work - i know its awful to feel like you don't want to go but knowing you have to. Whenever I have the misfortune of encoutering the human races less desirable members I think to myself 'yes it was awful being with them for an hour / all day etc, but poor them, they will be them for their whole lives - how miserable.'

ilovemy2babies Sat 06-Jun-09 20:21:58

I dont want to talk to a pro i find it difficult enough talking on here about it

notevenamousie Sun 07-Jun-09 12:45:49

It is hard to talk about it but that might be the only way to feel better. Could you sit down with an independent person at work and try and prevent the problems from getting out of control?

ilovemy2babies Sun 07-Jun-09 20:37:25

thanks 4 the advise im still really worried about going back into work tomorrow

notevenamousie Mon 08-Jun-09 19:52:04

How was work today? Thinking of you.

ilovemy2babies Tue 09-Jun-09 18:52:24

ahhhh thanks mousie, yeah work wasn't too bad yesterday spoke to my manager about the problems ive been havin at work and he is supporting me 100% and told me that all the other staff are too. Feel much better now i dont feel like such a horrible person

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