Taking it all out on DH

[Pagan]

I'm worried I might have PND. One day I'm fine, the next all hell breaks loose. Example yesterday I had a good day but when DS woke at 3pm for a feed (as usual) I couldn't get back to sleep despite being knackered. DH hadn't put his nappy on tight enough despite me reminding him several times (suppose it could be called nagging him) so I had to change him as well. In a kind of straw breaking camel's back moment I flipped when I got back to bed and was really angry with him. I eventually burst into tears and felt totally crap as a mum. He was very reassuring but I feel I constantly moan and nag him. He says I should write down the things that he does wrong and I can't bring myself to do it as it's like I'm having a real dig at him. He does do lots of other things to help.

He's away next week with work and perhaps I'm dreading the thought of being alone with a baby and a toddler.

I'm trying to be upbeat and keep telling myself that all mums feel like this but I hate myself for being a miserable old cow!

[Nemo1977]

Aww hun firstly huge hugs to u
I think maybe u need to see ur gp if u think u have pnd. I think a lot of DH suffer especially with a first time mum, i know that I am quite particular about some things and ds is now 17mths. It is also to make dh an easy 'target' for any feelings of worthlessness etc that you have. He is right about writing things down but maybe more for urself as to why u feel so angry etc as sometimes if things r in black n white u can see how petty it is or what else has been going on to make u feel that way. Lack of sleep is a major cause for low feelings and aggression as we feel frustrated etc and in a way resentful to baby and dh...not in a nasty way but in a how much ur life has changed way..if that makes sense