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Keep bursting in to tears, need a break, relatives and friends not available

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AnguaVonUberwald Mon 20-Oct-08 19:36:14

I am not sure where to post this but here goes.

DS is 6 months old and wonderful.

I however am struggling, he doesn't sleep much at night, and then only in short bursts and is being very intensive during the day.

I have started bursting into tears in random places (i,e waitrose, adn then crying all the way home) and really, really need a break.

We have builders in, doing a kitchen extension, I am starting a small business with two friends that starts in two weeks, no sleep, etc, etc. DH is wonderful, but keeps having to work weekends etc.

Relatives either not suitable or not available, friends the same.

Can anyone recommend somewhere I can go, with DS, where they look after him while I relax?

DH is also desperate for a good nights sleep, and us being away would let him do that.

Please, please, please, please,please I need some help short term.

Longer term we will look into something for DS one afternoon a week to give me a break, but need something now!

LadyOfRoffle Mon 20-Oct-08 19:38:08

A night nanny? I think sokme childminder/nannies take children overnight... {{hugs}}

AnguaVonUberwald Mon 20-Oct-08 19:40:47

LadyOfRoffle, thats the kind of thing we are thinking of, either that or some mythical spa somewhere, where they pamper me and look after him!

How do I find one that i know is good (plus they can't really stay here, as house a total mess wtih builders, and I need sleep and awake time on my own)

I just can't seem to stop crying most of the time, I don't think its PND, more just that I am overwhelmed by it all and need a bit of time off!

FourArms Mon 20-Oct-08 19:41:27

Whereabouts are you?

AnguaVonUberwald Mon 20-Oct-08 19:43:08

South east London!

NBheebieGeebies Mon 20-Oct-08 19:43:51

Isnt there a thing on MN with good hotel recommendations that have childcare etc.

I do feel for you.
Sleep deprivation is horrid especially if you don't get any time to catch up.

LadyOfRoffle Mon 20-Oct-08 19:45:41

Do you know any MNers enough to trust them? I do not know any night nannies, just know they exist.. maybe google?

FourArms Mon 20-Oct-08 19:46:15

Perhaps you need a childminder then. I'll put a link to this thread on the childcare board.

moondog Mon 20-Oct-08 19:47:19

Why can't you be on duty alternate nights?

He minds baby, you sleep, then vice versa.

nannyogg Mon 20-Oct-08 19:49:16

I'm pretty sure that one of the MN discount hotel chain thingies have childcare services. I'm pretty sure I read that. Will just check...

AnguaVonUberwald Mon 20-Oct-08 19:50:15

NBheebiegeebies, do you know what it is?

LadyofRoffle, I know marslady and Jura well, and a few came to my hennight, but thats about it. The thing is its not just the nights (though thats not helping), I need some time off in the day and DH HAS to do overtime at the moment (work related, no choice)

Fourarms, I think I do, but need one at really shortnotice,

Moondog, DH has to work, he is really good on weekends, and lets me catch up on sleep, but has to function at work during the week!

AnguaVonUberwald Mon 20-Oct-08 19:50:45

Nannyogg, anything you can give me....

lulumama Mon 20-Oct-08 19:51:19

ask mars if she does nights , i think she does for new borns.. worht asking? and hertsnessex too

phraedd is a night nanny i think

sorry you are struggling, long term sleep deprivation is a killer

nannyogg Mon 20-Oct-08 19:52:20

you get an mn discount too..

AnguaVonUberwald Mon 20-Oct-08 19:53:32

Lulumama, I have a history of depression and am so scared of getting PND. Really thought I was past the danger point.

I am desperatly hoping its not that now, but need some sleep and also some time away in the day.

And then I feel like I am letting DS down, like I don't love him enough or something, and I really do! sad

lulumama Mon 20-Oct-08 19:55:10

oh honey.. bursting into tears randomly is perhaps an indicator of PND. but so hard to tell when you are sooooooooo very tired.

do you take any meds? are you sleeping when you do go to bed, even if you are having broken sleep?

why not get some daytime help right now? just to take some pressure off

looneytune Mon 20-Oct-08 19:58:50

Haven't read whole thread, just saw the thread fourarms put in the Childminders section.....I'm a childminder who does overnight care but I'm in Reading and not SE London. Just thought it might be worth trying The Childcarelink Website here Usually the childminders who do overnight care have a moon to show they offer this. Also worth calling the number given for your area on this website as they will have a full list, including childminders who don't want to be listed on the net. Good luck

AnguaVonUberwald Mon 20-Oct-08 20:00:04

nannyogg, that is exactly what we are looking for, perfect in everyway, but really far away from us, we are in Southeast London, Kent really, and I am not confident driving very far!

AnguaVonUberwald Mon 20-Oct-08 20:02:03

Lulumama, no meds, havn't needed them for many, many years, I am sleeping at night, even if broken sleep, but too stressed to sleep in the day when he sleeps.

I will look into getting some daytime relief asap, but it takes time to visit places etc, looking for something right now and then will find him a childminder or something for an afternoon a week!

AnguaVonUberwald Mon 20-Oct-08 20:03:39

fourarms, thank you so much for putting the thread in the childcare section

loonytune, thankyou, will look at that!

NBheebieGeebies Mon 20-Oct-08 20:05:47

I remember after having ds1, I was very teary and I could cry anywhere at anytime at the drop of a hat. Just through sheer exhaustion.

Nannyoggs found what I was thinking of.

Why not go for a childminder in your area. Get some days in first, you can nap and then get the odd night in here and there with them?

lulumama Mon 20-Oct-08 20:07:38

sounds like you are doing very very well then
the fact you think yuo aren;t , menas you are ifyswim grinsounds like you want the best and are doing your best loving and caring for your wee boy. don;t beat yourself up !

AnguaVonUberwald Mon 20-Oct-08 20:11:08

lulumama, I love him so much and he is so wonderful, but i need a break!!!

Thanks for your comforting words, my big fear is letting him down in some way.

NBheebiegeebies, I will, I just need something for this week too, have to do something immediatly. The only alternative is imposing on my SIL and since she is going on holiday in a couple of days time, thats really not fair!

lulumama Mon 20-Oct-08 20:15:47

the relentless is hard to deal with, especially when you have so much on your plate...you;re doing very well.

AnguaVonUberwald Mon 20-Oct-08 20:16:08

Thank you!

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