Hi
I'm worried about my husband's mental health. Life has not been too kind recently. DH has children from a previous relationship and the eldest was diagnosed with leukaemia 6 weeks ago. We are devastated. Recently, my father attempted suicide & we had a miscarriage so were already quite low. DH got special leave from work and spent all day, every day at great ormond street by his son's side, until son was allowed home. We have negotiated with our companies to get every friday off (working weekend day to make up for it) so that DH can take his son to gt ormond st for treatment. We will also have the children every other wkend as usual. We have our own toddler together, and one of us works early shifts and the other works lates so he is looked after, so as you can imagine this is now getting complicated!
Our companies have been understanding but as the patient does not live with us there is only so much you can ask for.
DH is now on annual leave and for the last 2 weeks we have had all children over for 4 days a week (in our tiny flat). We have been receiving very nasty texts from DHs ex because she now wants us to have the ill son on thursdays too, so she doesn't have to drop a day from her part time job (4 hours). Our work can't accomodate this unless DH loses pay, and we cannot afford to lose pay (also the ex doesnt want us to lose pay because her maintenance will be reduced. she says she has family willing to look after the son for 4 hours but she wants us to do it. Every time we have looked after him in the last few weeks we have got nasty texts afterwards saying that we were cruel to him by taking him to a shop (he was happy to pop out to the shop, & we needed food for him!) Now she is saying we are lying about not being able to do thursdays, because she knows someone at HR at DHs company who says so. She also knows when all DHs annual leave is because she knows someone else at DH's work. We have racked or brains and we dont know who she knows. DH feels he can no longer trust ANYONE at work because someone is letting her know personal info. This is relentless. We can do nothing right. DH just wants to concentrate on getting his son well and doing what we can to help. He drinks every day, snaps at the smallest thing, baerly sleeps, eats the odd slice of bread unless i make him eat more. He has shaved his hair very short & has the look of a psycho...he is heading for a breakdown and i cannot help this situation. What can i do?
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Worried about my husband
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citybranch · 08/09/2008 13:25
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