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Mental health

Anyone around? Feeling down - could do with a chat...

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wotulookinat · 06/09/2008 18:02

There used to be a fairly active 'Citalopram users' thread that I used a lot for support, but that dried up yonks ago.

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tribpot · 06/09/2008 18:58

Just wanted to bump you for the evening crowd. How are you doing?

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JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 06/09/2008 19:01

I'm on citalopram for PND/rampant crazy demonic pmt. You ok? How long have you been on it? has anything set this off? or could it be pmt? here if you want to talk x

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wotulookinat · 06/09/2008 19:30

Thanks for the bump tribpot. And hello James I've been on the Cit since the new year. I just have felt drained for a couple of weeks. I've barely left the house. I don't know what has triggered it. There are lots of little things going on so I guess it's a mixture of them really.

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JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 07/09/2008 16:53

Hi wt, how are you feeling today?

Physical things can make you feel drained too, are you sure you're not pg, or suffering from low iron?

I don't leave the house either, even though I've been on the citalopram for well over a month. Were you happy to leave the house up to two weeks ago? What strength citalopram are you on? do you think you might have built up a tolerance of them and you might need higher strength ones?

Is there anything you can do about the little problems you have going on? would it help to talk them out here, or with the samaritans? a problem shared and all that. Sometimes when your thoughts are whirling it's helpful to get them down on paper so you an start to address each of them in turn.

Sorry I couldn't be of more help, but you aren't alone. We could start another citalopram thread if it would help?

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wotulookinat · 07/09/2008 17:16

Hiya. I'm postive I'm not pg, although we are talking about number 2.
I'm on 40mg Cit. When I last went to the doc a couple of weeks ago I asked about a higher dose and he dismissed the idea. I've been off work since Jan and have no plans to go back, but I have to wait for work to terminate my contract so I have to keep getting sick notes. My doc seemed a bit unwilling to keep giving me them so I've been worried about work and I've been having bad dreams about it, which hasn't helped.
Funnily enough, I did think about the Samaritans, but I didn't call in the end. I have seen a counseller a few times but not for a few weeks due to me being ill and then him benig on holiday, but I have another appt on Tuesday. And I have put my name on the waiting list for CBT.
So I guess I am trying to help myself. I just feel so lonely. We moved 200 miles away from home last summer, and although I didn't have many friends back home, I had my parents there. I've tried to make new friends in the new area, but it's been very hard.

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babyalfie · 07/09/2008 17:30

hello I am around.. I am totally in need of peopel to speak to. I am not ony medication but I will have to go see doctor in the morning as although do not tink i a depressed from what others tell me i am. I am 13 weeks pregnant and althought want to keep the bbay nobody knows about only my partner I was with whom we have been through a bad time. I have just found out he has told three others and scred to death my kids will get to know before I am honest with them.

How are you doing and since being on medication do you feel better?

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JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 07/09/2008 20:14

wot, wherabouts are you? I am in Wrexham, N Wales. If you're anywhere near I'd be more than happy to meet you for a coffee. I know how hard it is to make friends full stop, nevermind when you're stuck at home with a lo.

Keep up with the counselling, any opportunity to talk things out is good. I find the samaritans generally good, but it depends on who you get through to. Don't be afraid to thank them for their time and call another branch if you feel they aren't on your wavelength.

Babyalfie, congratulations on your pregnancy! it sounds like you'd feel better for telling your kids about it asap, it'd be a weight off your mind! Is there a reason why you can't? Antenatal depression is as common as postnatal depression. I'm pretty sure there are antidepressants you can take in pregnancy which won't affect the baby, why don't you ask your GP about it?

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wotulookinat · 08/09/2008 10:52

I'm in West Yorks - a bit of a trek from Wales I see my counseller again tomorrow. I'm kind of looking forward to it because I've planned what I want to talk to him about this week.
James do you go to any baby/toddler groups? How do you find them?

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JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 08/09/2008 11:40

Yeah a bit far! I do go occasionally to our local toddler group but to be honest I find it a bit of an ordeal. I try to make the effort to talk to people but this one seems a bit cliquey, and I find it very wearing at the moment, sitting around trying to look cheerful and approachable when really I'd rather be at home not caring what anybody thinks.

There seems to be two types of people at our group (held in local church) older churchy ladies who all seem to know each other and don't talk much to newcomers, and teenage mums with perfectly straightened hair and co-ordinated outfits, who go there to meet other young fashionable mums. I'm the big fat misfit who goes there late in cardi and flipflops and sits there talking more to my ds than anyone else, wondering for the 14th time why I bother.

Not that I'm bitter or anything!!! lol - and I should add that I do tend to feel paranoid as part of my depression. I'm finding it hard to shake the paranoia even despite the citalopram, I must admit.

I've got a lady from homestart coming round on thursday to talk about getting me some support, have you thought about them? Hope you're doing ok today. How old is/are your dc?

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wotulookinat · 08/09/2008 13:44

Well DH is off work today and we were both going to take DS to a stay and play. I refused to go so DH has taken him. I just couldn't face it. I went once (with DH too) and sat in another room and cried. Even though the other mums weren't necessarily young and perfect, I felt the same as you - the big fat misfit.
I think the Citalopram has made me more paranoid.
We have the one son who will be two in October. We'd both like another child but I'm really worried about it.
What kind of support to Homestart offer?
You know what, I might go to the stay and play. They don't finish til after three. I'll try. I bet DH would be impressed if I turned up.

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JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 08/09/2008 15:31

Hey wot, did you manage to go? Will write about homestart in a sec but I'm bing dived on by ds

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wotulookinat · 08/09/2008 18:01

Yes I went There were more people there this time, which was nice - although they did all seem to know each other. Maybe they are just friendlier than me. I didn't join in with the singy bit at the end (DH did it) but I was watching and I did think that I might be able to do it soon.
I picked up a leaflet at the childrens centre about homestart but I haven't had a chance to read it yet.

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JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 09/09/2008 21:23

Well done for going. I'm still not leaving the house much. Well, at all, really. Haven't been out for 2 or 3 weeks. I can feel myself getting more agoraphobic by the day and it's worrying me, so I'm forcing myself out tomorrow to go shopping with my sister.

How are you doing?

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wotulookinat · 10/09/2008 10:09

Hi James. I hope you managed to get out to go shopping today. I am hoping to get out today.
I went to my counseller yesterday, which counts as going out in my books! We talked about making each day count so this morning I have been playing cars with DS
Let me know how the shopping went.