i feel bad

[prueweller]

i feel really bad dh has to be up in an hour and a half and he is trying to get lo to sleep the thing is i cant stand to be in the same room as her ive been up with her for neally two hours and now i dont want to be anywhere near her during the day i am fine its just now i feel really bad and a really bad mother

[Pele]

You are not a bad mother. You may have post Natal Depression. How old is baby and how long have you been feeling this way?

[marthamoo]

Pele is right - you are not a bad mother, you are very very tired and may well have PND. Have you spoken to your GP?

[prueweller]

havent spoken to anybody dont know what to say shes 13 weeks

[trinityrocks]

Pleas go and see your midwife/health visitor/doctor any one and just say what you have said on here. I believe that you are suffering from sleep deprivation and probably PND aswell, I have been there and I'm still recovering, there is lots of help if you just reach out to someone and shout help!!!!!! Please do it for you and your baby )

Hope you feel better soon, you are NOT a bad mother! remember that!!!
Take care

[cat82]

Prueweller, no you are absolutly not a bad mother. I agree with everyone, you're suffering from sleep deprivation (in my opinion the worst form of torture) and maybe pnd. Like trinityrocks, i also have pnd and have felt very, very much like you.
I really would speak to your gp or health visitor about this.
Please take care
xx

[prueweller]

i feel worse tonight dh is not being very supportive he keeps making comments thinking they are funny and they are not and its not helping and i told hm this but its like runny up a brick wall with him you dont get anywhere! its hard enough having a 12 week old lo let alone putting up with him every thing is a joke to him hes got make a joke all the time and moans at me for being moody and depressed sorry but i cant help it does he think i want to be like this well i dont dont think anyone does! ive tryed taking to him but like i said he makes a joke of things i have two children not one!! never thought that that saying was ture i have prove of that sorry rant over!

[adamkylesmum]

prueweller, i felt exactly like u - my son is now 2.7 & did nothing but scream for the 1st 6 months. we were lucky to get an hours sleep a night. i couldnt admit i wasnt coping to anyone in case they thought i was a bad mum & suffered in silence until he was over a year old. my marriage nearly broke up because neither of us were sleeping & he didnt understand. eventually i went to the doctor who put me on citalopram & referred me to a counsellor. i didnt want drugs but they just helped me to get out of bed in the morning. the counsellor was fantastic & i was off the drugs after a few months. my son is now fantastic (obviously he has tantrums & stuff but the good bits outweigh the bad) & i am so glad i got help when i did or we would all still be miserable. dont be afraid to ask for help.