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How to help my sister with PND?

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Worriedaboutmysister Wed 06-Aug-08 17:25:20

I posted this in chat first but someone suggested I try here too.I hope someone can help me with this. My sister had a baby 2 weeks ago and had a difficult birth. She was having nightmares and flashbacks and some halluicinations involving her DS, so she saw her GP who diagnosed post traumatic stress syndrome and referred her to a (private) counsellor. That was about 5 days after the birth.

Since then she has been acting very oddly, picking fights with everyone including throwing her mother in law bodily out of the house over something incredibly trivial, saying she hates our parents and they will never see her DS again and various other things. We are all walking on eggshells with her. She has always been a bit of a difficult character but nothing like this, it is totally out of character. She says the counsellor blames our parents for her state of mind and that they are obviously toxic. She isn't bonding at all with her DS although he is fully cared for physically - she never cuddles him or holds him unless he needs a nappy change, bottle etc.

I am worried that she has PND and that is getting quite serious. What can I do? She won't even talk to me about it and I have only got this information about the counsellor etc whilst she has been ranting about how horrible everyone is. If I ask her a direct question she will go off on another rant. I am worried that if I contact her GP or HV she will find out it was me and never speak to me again. I also think she is putting on a front of coping in front of other people and worry that she is able to hide her state of mind from the health professionals she does see.

Can anyone offer any advice? I am absolutely frantic with worry.

amazonianadventure Wed 06-Aug-08 23:25:39

i would get her straigh back to the gp probably a different one to be honest,
from what your saying it sounds as if she may have a slight form of peurperal psychosis.

mumblecrumble Tue 12-Aug-08 19:40:30

Maybe you should chat with her health visitor.....

expatinscotland Tue 12-Aug-08 19:41:56


Don't wait for her to do it.

I'd have never gone myself.

expatinscotland Tue 12-Aug-08 19:42:24

i agree with ringing the HV.

Thefearlessfreak Tue 12-Aug-08 19:44:11

You do need to contact GP or health visitor definitely ....ok, she might not thank you at first but she will do later...she NEEDS support & professional knowledge. She is NOT going to ask for it, she does sound like she is slightly psychotic. I don't mean to sound scary but it does sound serious; she could put herself or her baby at risk. It will be easy to help her out of this if she has the right support. Good luck.

expatinscotland Tue 12-Aug-08 19:45:27

she is too ill to ask for it. she doesn't realise how ill she is.

trust me on this.

mumblecrumble Tue 12-Aug-08 19:49:37

Call HV. She may be cross in her current state but at a later time will thank you.

Call her GP and find our helath visitor. She sounds ill and it is mega treatable. Best of luck.

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