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Chaos, Stress & living on the edge - how to get a grip?

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manicmary Wed 16-Jul-08 17:17:59

Okay - what Mum has not experienced a little (or a lot) of the above - I'm sure I am not alone.

....but I really don't know what to do next.

I do not beleive I am depressed. From what I have heard true depression is a quite measurable and debilitating condition that culminates in not being able to sleep and other side effects. I don't suffer from problems with sleeping and physically - though I feel the stress in my body - I don't feel anything else except sheer and utter exhaustion.

A little background perhaps ... mum of 4 (aged between 18m and 9yrs) Have had 7 pg in last 10 yrs and have been bf non stop for 5 yrs. so - I am a little tired ot say the least

I work 5 days pw (but part time) additionally I run a business from home - or try to. I don't have any childcare provisions (my husband and I juggle it between us) and we have no family or friends in our area for help, support, a chat ....

I feel out of control. I can't bear it and my weight is spiralling (upwards!!) I eat for comfort because I am quite stressed by work. Also, where I live - people are very arrogant and confrontational. I am quite sensistive and can't bear road rage/trolley rage or anything of that nature. I just want ot run and hide from it all.

My head is so chaotic that some days I just sit with a pack of biscuits after school - staring into space because there is so much I have to do - so much going on - so many demands that I can't even bear to start thinking about it.

I think I need a jolly good kick up the backs side but seriously, I just need some support and I haven't a clue where to turn.

I have no person in my life that I can discuss things with. My husband is ... well ... it wouldn't be right of me to say what I really think here ... but put it like this - he's not much help. I can't affor a councellor. I can't go to the Doctor because I wouldn't know what to say to him or her - I don't even know what is wrong myself. I feel desperately lonely and would just love to have someone to talk to and maybe it would help to clear my head (because everything stays inside IYSWIM). Writing everything down is not an option since I barely have time ot blow my nose ... I simply cannot afford any time for such things. I need some clear, concise and efficient help.

Does anyone know of any good self helpo book (not the sort that it takes a week or more to read- I don't have the time - but something simple and to the point).

Or maybe a motivational / life coaching type website with useful information.

Now - as you've probably guessed by my message - I haven't really got a clue what I'm trying to say - none of it really makes sense does it.

Does anyone get what I'm trying to say?

Any replies will be very much appreciated - thanks for taking the time ot read

manicmary Wed 16-Jul-08 19:46:35

I guess there's only one way to turn - no support for so many years now, no-one is interested in me or how I feel ... I've lost the will to bother any more.

SpirallingOutOfControl Wed 16-Jul-08 20:29:21

MM - Saw your OP when I went to topics to find this one as there were no threads in mental health on active convos.

Clicked on it hoping for some answers.

Saw myself mirrored on the screen. I could have written your exact OP except I only have 2 DC and am not actually working as I am being a sort of SAHM at the moment (a very long moment as it turns out...) tho I have a business which DP works at too 7 days a week and I deal with all the paperwork and stuff to do with the house which is a lot and very stressful for various reasons which I won't go into as I don't want to out myself.

This evening, after a horrendous afternoon with the DC in which I slapped the 2 yo and told the 4yo the police were going to take me away for being a horrible mummy, I decided that I can't cope any more, admitted it to myself and tomorrow I am getting an appointment with my GP to ask for tranquillisers or anti-depressants. I don't know anything about either which is why I've come on here tonight to start a thread asking about peoples' experience of them.

I hope you come back to this thread. I don't have any answers for you, just want you to know that you are not alone. You really are not alone.

AMAZINWOMAN Thu 17-Jul-08 07:41:25

Hane you tried phoning the samaritans? You don't have to be suicidal to phone these, just be upset emotionally.

you have so much to cope with, when do you ever recharge your batteries?

after your 9 year old is in bed, can you have a soak in the bath?

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