My feed
Premium
Please
or
to access all these features

Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you have medical concerns, please seek medical attention.

Mental health

Can I risk being totally honest?

86 replies

naswm · 07/07/2008 17:42

Community Mental Health Team appt tomorrow.

if I tell them everything, I have to deal with the possible consequences of that

if I dont tell them the truth, they wont take me seriously

Waited 2.5 weeks for this 'urgent' appoiontment to come through, and now it is here I don't know how to play it

advice please?

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggggggghhhhhhhh

OP posts:
Report
cornsilk · 07/07/2008 17:43

what is 'everything' and what do you think the consequences might be?

Report
Hecate · 07/07/2008 17:43

They can't help you if you aren't straight with them.

Report
Amphibimum · 07/07/2008 17:43

what consequences? legal ones?

(had same dilemma. opened up. nothing 'bad' happened fwiw)

Report
naswm · 07/07/2008 17:46

everything = self harm etc, suicidal

OP posts:
Report
cornsilk · 07/07/2008 17:52

what do you mean by 'possible consequences?' I think you need to tell them for them to be able to help you, but have no experience in this area.

Report
naswm · 07/07/2008 17:54

risk of DC being taken etc
risk to my job
risk of being sectioned
risk of not being understood

OP posts:
Report
ManxMum · 07/07/2008 17:59

If you don't open up, they can't help you.
They will believe you and their aim is to help, not split families up.

Good Luck

Report
naswm · 07/07/2008 18:01

I know manx, but I have been so badly let down in the past - I just dont know any more

OP posts:
Report
UnderRated · 07/07/2008 18:08

I know we talked about this, naswm, but I think if you can be cautiously honest, that might be best.

Decide what you need from them (crisis intervention at the very least), find out what they can do for you and then tell them as much as you can.

They need to know who is in danger (you) and who is not (your DC) and just how serious it is when you are not safe. And how often it happens, if anything triggers it etc

I'll be thinking of you

x

Report
naswm · 07/07/2008 18:14

thanks UR, I know you understand {{{{}}}}

Very recently I have learnt why so many people used to be locked up for life - this is horrible isnt it?

OP posts:
Report
Amphibimum · 07/07/2008 18:19

naswm, im thinking of you too.
i think youre doing reeeally well.

Report
UnderRated · 07/07/2008 18:20

Yes, it is horrible. Very very sad

I hope the meeting goes well and that things begin to improve very soon.

Report
zippitippitoes · 07/07/2008 18:22

i hope it goes well too

Report
naswm · 07/07/2008 18:22

thanks

at this moment I am intent on going in there all guns blazing and letting rip

but come tomorrow I might have my tail between my legs and be all sweetness and light and they wont get it at all

OP posts:
Report
Amphibimum · 07/07/2008 18:24

oh god yes, i know that one. but dont for one minute feel like youre the only one who behaves that way, im exactly the same.
good luck x

Report
naswm · 07/07/2008 18:27

if I come out there with nothing though I will scream and scream and scream so loudly and then know that my time is up

OP posts:
Report
DumbledoresGirl · 07/07/2008 18:30

Hi naswm. Could you write some things down (I know you have probably written the right sort of thing for your own benefit) and take that in with you? Then, if you find yourself putting on the front, you can say, "Look I am not really painting the right picture here. Have a look at what I wrote earlier." It can be easier to do that than to take off the mask that I know you often wear on occasions such as this.

Just a thought.

Report
naswm · 07/07/2008 18:32

good idea thansk

you hiding?

OP posts:
Report
DumbledoresGirl · 07/07/2008 18:35

Please try it. You don't have to show them the writing if you don't want to. But it is there if you want to use it, like if you see the apointment coming to its end and you feel that you are about to go outside and scream because it hasn't gone the way you wanted it to. You do have something appropriate already written, don't you?

No not hiding but ds1 is about to go on the pc so I didn't sign in to msn.

Report
naswm · 07/07/2008 18:38

vg idea - I might just take my journal

but atm tomorrow is a long way off

OP posts:
Report
UnderRated · 07/07/2008 18:40

If nothing helpful comes of tomorrow, it doesn't mean your time is up. Just that they are unable to help

Writing it down now might be a good idea - while you are rational and thinking relatviely clearly.

Report
naswm · 07/07/2008 18:41

I will if they are 'unable to help' just like everyone else

God that is enough to make anyone depressed

OP posts:
Report

Don’t want to miss threads like this?

Weekly

Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!

Log in to update your newsletter preferences.

You've subscribed!

UnderRated · 07/07/2008 18:50

I know it's crap, naswm. They should be able to help. They should do something and I really hope they do. But I know you have been let down before.

Best of luck x

Report
naswm · 07/07/2008 19:25

Thanks

I now have to get through the evening, and then the night.....

OP posts:
Report
DumbledoresGirl · 07/07/2008 20:44

The other thing I thought of naswm, is to ask yourself what is it you want to be offered at the end of the session. If you can go in saying you want x y or z to be done for you, then that might help focus the discussion.

When I went about my phobia, I was asked what I wanted and I didn't have an answer. I don't know if that was why nothing realistic was offered to me, but I feel as though that was the reason.

Report
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.