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Can I risk being totally honest?

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naswm Mon 07-Jul-08 17:42:22

Community Mental Health Team appt tomorrow.

if I tell them everything, I have to deal with the possible consequences of that

if I dont tell them the truth, they wont take me seriously

Waited 2.5 weeks for this 'urgent' appoiontment to come through, and now it is here I don't know how to play it

advice please?


cornsilk Mon 07-Jul-08 17:43:09

what is 'everything' and what do you think the consequences might be?

Hecate Mon 07-Jul-08 17:43:12

They can't help you if you aren't straight with them.

Amphibimum Mon 07-Jul-08 17:43:29

what consequences? legal ones?

(had same dilemma. opened up. nothing 'bad' happened fwiw)

naswm Mon 07-Jul-08 17:46:39

everything = self harm etc, suicidal

cornsilk Mon 07-Jul-08 17:52:58

what do you mean by 'possible consequences?' I think you need to tell them for them to be able to help you, but have no experience in this area.

naswm Mon 07-Jul-08 17:54:49

risk of DC being taken etc
risk to my job
risk of being sectioned
risk of not being understood

ManxMum Mon 07-Jul-08 17:59:24

If you don't open up, they can't help you.
They will believe you and their aim is to help, not split families up.

Good Luck

naswm Mon 07-Jul-08 18:01:42

I know manx, but I have been so badly let down in the past - I just dont know any more

UnderRated Mon 07-Jul-08 18:08:28

I know we talked about this, naswm, but I think if you can be cautiously honest, that might be best.

Decide what you need from them (crisis intervention at the very least), find out what they can do for you and then tell them as much as you can.

They need to know who is in danger (you) and who is not (your DC) and just how serious it is when you are not safe. And how often it happens, if anything triggers it etc

I'll be thinking of you


naswm Mon 07-Jul-08 18:14:14

thanks UR, I know you understand {{{{}}}}

Very recently I have learnt why so many people used to be locked up for life - this is horrible isnt it?

Amphibimum Mon 07-Jul-08 18:19:29

naswm, im thinking of you too.
i think youre doing reeeally well.

UnderRated Mon 07-Jul-08 18:20:25

Yes, it is horrible. Very very sad sad

I hope the meeting goes well and that things begin to improve very soon.

zippitippitoes Mon 07-Jul-08 18:22:19

i hope it goes well too

naswm Mon 07-Jul-08 18:22:20


at this moment I am intent on going in there all guns blazing and letting rip

but come tomorrow I might have my tail between my legs and be all sweetness and light and they wont get it at all

Amphibimum Mon 07-Jul-08 18:24:45

oh god yes, i know that one. but dont for one minute feel like youre the only one who behaves that way, im exactly the same.
good luck x

naswm Mon 07-Jul-08 18:27:10

if I come out there with nothing though I will scream and scream and scream so loudly and then know that my time is up

DumbledoresGirl Mon 07-Jul-08 18:30:56

Hi naswm. Could you write some things down (I know you have probably written the right sort of thing for your own benefit) and take that in with you? Then, if you find yourself putting on the front, you can say, "Look I am not really painting the right picture here. Have a look at what I wrote earlier." It can be easier to do that than to take off the mask that I know you often wear on occasions such as this.

Just a thought.

naswm Mon 07-Jul-08 18:32:46

good idea thansk

<waves> you hiding?

DumbledoresGirl Mon 07-Jul-08 18:35:52

Please try it. You don't have to show them the writing if you don't want to. But it is there if you want to use it, like if you see the apointment coming to its end and you feel that you are about to go outside and scream because it hasn't gone the way you wanted it to. You do have something appropriate already written, don't you?

No not hiding but ds1 is about to go on the pc so I didn't sign in to msn.

naswm Mon 07-Jul-08 18:38:56

vg idea - I might just take my journal

but atm tomorrow is a long way off

UnderRated Mon 07-Jul-08 18:40:30

If nothing helpful comes of tomorrow, it doesn't mean your time is up. Just that they are unable to help sad

Writing it down now might be a good idea - while you are rational and thinking relatviely clearly.

naswm Mon 07-Jul-08 18:41:51

I will if they are 'unable to help' just like everyone else

God that is enough to make anyone depressed

UnderRated Mon 07-Jul-08 18:50:41

I know it's crap, naswm. They should be able to help. They should do something and I really hope they do. But I know you have been let down before.

Best of luck x

naswm Mon 07-Jul-08 19:25:48


I now have to get through the evening, and then the night.....

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