I really don't think I'm depressed as I don't feel down as such, I just feel like I'm in a grump/bad mood ALL or most of the time.
I have a lot to be thankful for, great DC's who i love to bits, DH (he can be great at times but also not at all great fairly often), no money worries at the moment.
But I just never seem to feel happy or really appreciate what I've got. I am bored a lot of the time (have started loads of other threads about this) and am going to look into doing a part time/OU course to give me something interesting to do. I haven't got many friends , seem to have lost touch with most of them over the years since having DC's.
Have also got major issues with my parents (abusive childhood- no longer see parents) and sisters but am seeing a counsellor about this.
Also have a chronic long term health issue that gets me down a lot and perhaps that is the cause of my grumpiness; I'm so used to it now but I guess it's always there niggling away at me and stops me from doing things that I would otherwise.
DH keeps telling me that I'm a 'glass half empty' person as opposed to a 'glass half full' person and although I hate to admit it I think he's right. But I haven't always been this way, I used to be a happy, cheerful,optimistic person but I seem to have turned into a miserable old bag over the years! But I don't know why.
Or perhaps I do know why but I just don't want to admit it as i know I'll be hated for it. I feel sometimes that i made a big mistake in getting married and having kids. I think i am a loner at heart, and I really love and need my own space and freedom to do what i want when i want. I guess getting married and having kids has severely restricted my freedom and a lot of time, if not all the time, I feel trapped and suffocated and worn down with the constant demands made on me by the DC's and DH. I feel like running away from them all and sometimes feel like the DC's would be better off without me as they deserve a proper mummy who appreciates and enjoys them far more than I seem to do.
I even had a holiday earlier in the yearl, just for a week, with some friends but without DH and DC's and I LOVED it and didn't miss them at all. I absolutely loved the fact that my time was my own and I could do what I wanted when i wanted without interruption. I could have easily stayed away for a month (although perhaps I would have started to miss DH and the DC's after this long).
I feel awful and ungrateful and miserable for feeling like this but it's the truth and I think there's no point in denying it to myself any longer. At least facing up to it and admitting it may be the first step in doing something about it.
Well, I feel better for getting all this off my chest. A little less grumpy anyway
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Why do I feel so grumpy all the time?
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oneplusone · 22/03/2008 13:29
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