vict17 if only you knew! I get out of these family gatherings so many times but failed miserably this time and don't wish to upset dh any further. Thought I would cope but it's just got me feeling so low. Having to grin and bear it. Trouble is it's like fostermother said slim posh and let you know it. It's always me spending dh money as I'm a SAHM but it just doesn't seem to apply to them as they already had money, not that I ever saw their bank balances or vice versa. Then the slim bit is lots of little things. Educationally I'm below them too as I went to a comprehensive and didn't do Latin etc etc. Can only speak minimum amount of French or any other language. They always seem to know all the classics too and of course if I tried to catch up I'd get all muddled anyway and make a fool of myself as I have done in the past or if I talk about some book I know then they don't join in etc etc it's as if it's of only very minor importance compared to what they know. Oh and I hate all the kissy kissy false greetings oh how I could go on and on and on and bore every MN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
hay color never feel bad about lack of schooling i left school at 10yrs old as i nursed my mom and we where in a different country, so education wise i missed out but i know a lot more about lots of things which ive learned from the school of life,when they are haveing thier little digs imagine them sitting on the loo,some how it makes us all equal
You don't know what is beneath the surface, anyway. Chances are things aren't all sweetness and light. And being too slim isn't healthy - they may be thin because they bottle a lot of stress up. A bit of fat is protective, too.
just want to say thank you to everyone for your encouragement and understanding. Will try to grin and bear it as the saying goes!
Posyhairdresser (love the nickname ) I often try to focus on "all not being as it seems" but then it doesn't seem otherwise when you keep hearing how they have just been on holiday here there everywhere, how their children are sooooo clever (all at private school of course) and anything I mention about our children (dh never bothers much) just seems to get passed over like they pass over me. Sure they make a fuss of the children but sometimes it seems they make little snide comments too especially at the table as our children wont eat everything and anything if they don't like the look of it and happen to be hungry at other times as they didn't get enough to eat at mealtimes then it's sure that it's commented on and little ones don't know how to say nothing. I have to take things for them to eat when we can get away. Now they are a bit older I try not to but if they are hungry they are hungry. So now I plan to take lots of food they like to eat so that I can just cater for them myself this time when they are still hungry after the elaborate meals with food not suitable for younger children and with sauces that are tasteless and children don't want so have to leave and therefore leave them feeling hungry and dissatisfied. I'm now planning just to ignore the comments, as I never rise to them very well anyway.
SO if any of my SIL/BIL wives happen to be reading this watch out for the new me who is planning not to give a xxxx and... sorry I'll stop boring anyone who bothers to read this now! Bother will probably have to change my nickname again now!!!
color ppl should accept you for being you im pretty fat myself but i have dropped down from a size 24/26 to 18/20 in the last 2 years and nobody has even bothered to say anything. just hold your head up high and be you.
ppl will respect you for it.
aww color sorry....its not easy but i had no choice... if ppl call you fat say yeah and your ugly but i can sort my problem out when i want to ...what are you going to do....and loosing weight has its disadvantages....have to get new clothes and you have a kangaroo pouch as my dd1 says ...
not will power at all either it was a case of i have major problems with my hips and may need a replacement i did a walk of 14 miles with dd1 last year and most of it my hip was semi dislocated but carried on coz it was raising money for selective mutisum reserch. doing it again this year come with me on it.
sorry to hear about your hip, how long did 14 miles take to complete Rogue? Plus I've not heard of that research is it a national walk? I've been trying to walk 10,000 steps idea but with the children and all the committments that entails just slipped right out of it again and feeling it in myself so quickly again.