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Suicidal after breakup

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bookworm100 Sat 15-Aug-20 22:14:44

Just that really. 32, happened this morning. Truly heartbroken and crushed. Didn't see it coming. Can't see a way out of the pain. Have had MH problems in the past and think this might be it. Anyone been there and have amy advice? The pain is excruciating

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Lisette1940 Sat 15-Aug-20 22:17:49

Bookworm just a quick post to acknowledge your pain. Do you have someone in real life that you can talk to as well. X

Lisette1940 Sat 15-Aug-20 22:18:58

You are probably in shock. Someone will post soon with better advice than me but just wanted to be here for you.

bookworm100 Sat 15-Aug-20 22:19:40

Yes but it isn't making a difference. The pain is so great

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bookworm100 Sat 15-Aug-20 22:20:36

@Lisette1940 thank you for posting thanks

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Lisette1940 Sat 15-Aug-20 22:20:51

Do you have the phone number of your local MH crisis team?

Lacey2019 Sat 15-Aug-20 22:21:13

This is natural. I felt suicidal when my relationship ended too. But you will be ok. I think if you have someone to talk to or ring, do so and be totally honest with them x

bookworm100 Sat 15-Aug-20 22:21:40

@Lisette1940 No but I have decided not to do anything today. Might call the Samaritans tomorrow

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Lisette1940 Sat 15-Aug-20 22:22:20

I have not had experience of a breakup with a partner but I'm not in contact with my parents. I was/am upset about that. Heartache is awful often physical too.

Robertplantgoddess Sat 15-Aug-20 22:22:32

Ok. Of course you're smarting from the pain but killing yourself you know you dont get to watch what comes next. You arent dead itll be like you never were to people you havent met yet

iswhois Sat 15-Aug-20 22:23:06

Please please be reassured that you can and will get through this. I know it's impossible to imagine right now but I promise you better days are ahead.

Could you perhaps stay with a friend or family member for a few days? It's good to be with company right now x

Lisette1940 Sat 15-Aug-20 22:23:18

The Samaritans are always there for you. Be excessively gentle with yourself.

Robertplantgoddess Sat 15-Aug-20 22:23:36

Just dead

Lisette1940 Sat 15-Aug-20 22:25:05

You are very welcome Bookworm

bookworm100 Sat 15-Aug-20 22:25:52

I am at a friend's house. That's the main reason I'm not going to act on it tonight. It's so hard to imagine ever feeling ok and not totally rejected/abandoned. I feel lots of self-loathing at the way I contributed to the breakdown in the relationship, I miss him and I can't imagine ever loving and being loved again

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Lisette1940 Sat 15-Aug-20 22:25:53

Are you still there? 💐

Lisette1940 Sat 15-Aug-20 22:27:03

Sorry cross post. I'm glad you are with someone tonight.

Lessofallthisunpleasantness Sat 15-Aug-20 22:27:09

So painful but try to remember other painful times you have been through and with time you have felt better. Time is a great healer isn't a cliche for nothing, it really is the only way to heal after difficult times. Baby steps. Make a snack. Watch the stupid Gavin and Stacy adoration program that is on TV now. If you are feeling so horrible though, call the samaritans to talk it through.

candle18 Sat 15-Aug-20 22:28:17

I knew a girl in college who killed herself after her boyfriend finished with her. She was about 21, bright and beautiful. Her family and friends were devastated. She obviously couldn’t see any way out of the pain but I’m sure that in a year or two she would have got over it, met someone else, had children and been happy. You can and will get better, phone your GP or NHS24 and tell them how you feel. Get all the help and support you can from those around you. Keep telling yourself that this is the worst you will feel, it will get better. Be kind to yourself and accept that you have to go through this but it is temporary.

Lisette1940 Sat 15-Aug-20 22:28:46

I think most people would feel very strong feelings if they had a breakup. You'll be feeling many emotions.

blackandwhite2020 Sat 15-Aug-20 22:33:04

OP, massive love going out to you, you poor thing! I'm sure I could give you soooo many cliches but to be honest none of them would take the pain away and you'd defo not want to waste your time reading them. However, I will absolutely say that fact, water helps you to calm down and get sleep, for so many difference and in different ways, but for suuuuuuure, sleep (however many minutes/hours) will help your mind and body function, so please try and get some. The calm app would be great, they talk and distract you whilst you sleep!! X

Hippychickster Sat 15-Aug-20 22:33:20

I'm so sorry. Do you have someone you can call to come and be with you?

It is a horrible horrible feeling, but it won't last forever.

I hope you feel better in the morning x

bookworm100 Sat 15-Aug-20 22:36:02

Thank you all. I'm going to try and get some sleep now though I'm already dreading waking up in the morning and realising all over again that this is real

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Emmie12345 Sat 15-Aug-20 22:36:52

Sending you love and some peace - you will move on from this, it will be OK honey xxx

DawnMumsnet (MNHQ) Sat 15-Aug-20 22:37:15

Hi bookworm100, we're really sorry to hear you're feeling this way.

We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources. There are lots of organisations listed which can give you some support.

You can also go to the Samaritans website, or email them on, or call them, any time, on 116 123. Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you'll be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek real life help and support as well.

We hope you're okay. flowers

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