I wrote here a week or so ago about my partner suffering with his mental health.
He left a job doing what he 'knew' to try something new. He couldn't cope with the fast paced nature and complications of the new job and after 6.5 working days there he and his employer decided it best he pack it in.
I am almost 6 months pregnant with our son and have been on furlogh since April 1st. Whilst I still technically have a job and am earning, I could be made redundant at any minute. I've only been in my role since this time last year. Other than this, if I am not made redundant I will be on statutory maternity pay from around mid November/early December for a good while and I am struggling myself with how I am supposed to support us both and with a newborn in tow. Not to mention he also has a 4 yo daughter from a previous relationship whose mother will make our lives a living hell if he can't pay maintenance.
Whilst he certainly doesn't expect me to support us both, I feel like he 'knows' that I will. I am not saying he has meant to put this pressure on me but I am also not sure he quite understands just how much pressure this is.
As I earn a semi decent wage, I am mortgage free and we live together, he's barely entitled to any sort of benefits. I applied for job seekers allowance on his behalf tonight, which I am annoyed that he doesn't even have the sense to do himself! And for which I don't even know if he'll receive anything from them.
It is heartbreaking to see him so downtrodden by it all and today 'his first unemployed day' has been very productive having almost finished decorating the baby's bedroom, I can't help but be upset by it all.
I love him dearly and will do all that I can to help but I refuse to pay his half of the bills and for all of our food shopping etc. Not to mention food and clothing for his 4 yo child. I'm concerned all this stress is not good for the baby but I can't shift it.
Please tell me I'm not a bad person
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CD28 · 12/08/2020 23:00
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