Ready to give up

[mumof5cn]

I can't handle any of this anymore

[HebeMumsnet]

Hi there mumof5cn,

We hope you're ok. Just didn't want to read and run but we're sure someone else will be along soon. We can see from your other thread that you're not getting as much support as you need with the kids. Is there anything else you want to talk about here?

If you wanted to have a chat with someone on the phone we have lots of numbers in our Mental Health Webguide that might be useful. Do have a look there and give someone a call if you can. There are lots of agencies and organisations out there who might be able to offer practical help as well as a listening ear.

There are lots of sympathetic ears here too though so please do stick around.

[GazingAndGrazing]

Hello MumOf5, so glad you posted, I’m here if you want an anonymous shoulder and ear?

[Bananabread8]

Hi @mumof5cn what is it that your struggling with?

[excelledyourself]

I'm here too @mumof5cn

[excelledyourself]

Seen your other thread now. Have you spoke to your health visitor? You clearly have a lot on your plate. When is your 3yo back at nursery?

[mumof5cn]

It's all too much. I have nobody. After all the DV still my family won't talk to me or support me. I just can't do this anymore I don't want to be here

[excelledyourself]

Then you don't need that family. I'm sorry for all that you've been through. You're raising 5 kids. I'd say you're far stronger than you realise.

[mumof5cn]

I'm not no more the baby is screaming the 3 yr is kicking off in crying I just want to make it all go away

[excelledyourself]

Where is your eldest? Can they comfort the baby or take the 3yo out for a walk?

You've got these kids out of a hellish living situation. Your last post in April says they are so much happier. You did that. Keep going.

[Bananabread8]

Can you call your GP tomorrow morning?. They can refer you to a therapist or counselling sessions.

[excelledyourself]

There is help out there, OP. It doesn't need to come from family.

Just get through tonight. Call the Samaritans. Call anyone. Please. Don't leave your kids like this.

[SmokeAndBone]

You can do this.
You will get through it.
Can you all sit together on the sofa and watch something till you feel calmer?

[SmokeAndBone]

www.samaritans.org/


Call for free on
116 123

[Bananabread8]

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OP. Go to your local hospital if you need help right now. Lots of people are trying to reach out to you on this thread. Motherhood is really hard and I’m sure your doing fabulous you are not a bad person. Your children need you more than anything.

[OverTheRainbow88]

You need to be here tomorrow for your children. Go ring on a neighbours door and ask for help, even if you don’t know them well. Phone 999 if have no one else.

It will get better, your life is worth living, you will be happier, your kids love you.

[excelledyourself]

OP, I hope you are talking to someone, but please then let us know that you are okay. People care, I promise.

[HebeMumsnet]

Hey again, OP. We're really sorry to hear you're feeling so down. We're afraid our policy is that we don't allow posts like your one at 20.02 so we've had to take it down, but we can see you're getting lots of support here. We're going to leave the thread up for now so you can access that support and advice. We'd echo what others have said. Do call the Samaritans. This is exactly what they're there for.

[mumof5cn]

@HebeMumsnet

Hey again, OP. We're really sorry to hear you're feeling so down. We're afraid our policy is that we don't allow posts like your one at 20.02 so we've had to take it down, but we can see you're getting lots of support here. We're going to leave the thread up for now so you can access that support and advice. We'd echo what others have said. Do call the Samaritans. This is exactly what they're there for.

Dw

[Sometimes123]

It is ok to not be ok OP, the important thing is being able to talk about how you're feeling. Have you spoken to anyone else tonight about how you're feeling? How are the children now?

[mumof5cn]

@Sometimes123

It is ok to not be ok OP, the important thing is being able to talk about how you're feeling. Have you spoken to anyone else tonight about how you're feeling? How are the children now?

My older kids are seeing to the babies but it's not fair but I can't see to them either I'm destroying them too

[Bananabread8]

Are you in contact with your health visitor?

[excelledyourself]

You're not destroying them, OP. This is what family should be about. Supporting one another. Half hour here and there of looking after the wee ones to give you a time out is not a bad lesson for them. Don't be so hard on yourself.

[Sometimes123]

I haven't read any of your previous threads because I'm a bit of a mumsnet newbie and I haven't figured out how to do it, but I've read inbetween the lines on this thread and I've realised that you must be in a really bad place right now. I can't offer you any professional advice, but I can say that however dark things might seem at the moment, tomorrow is a new day and provides new opportunities. Can you write off today as just "utterly shit," do what you need to do to make sure the kids are ok and have what they need...then get some rest, knowing that tomorrow can and WILL be different if you want it to be? Do you feel able to call a anonymised support line?

[Sometimes123]

A friend of mine one told me to take the dark days and nights an hour at a time, knowing that they will pass. I don't know if this is of any help at all to you. But please know that you're not alone in this.