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Being a carer(2 Posts)
I am a full time carer for my Mum I’m her late 80’s who lives with me, with significant health problems, and my husband who had progressive MS and my teenage Son.
I do most everything in my household for us to keep going.
I sometimes feel drained and have headaches and feel down, but I never talk about this to those I care for as their reply is usually‘ well how do you think I feel’ and then what they are going through as ‘ they are much worse off than me’
I worry about what is going to happen to me in the future as I have spent many years as a carer with no outside job or income other than cares allowance and child tax credit
When my son grows up and moved away, and my Mum is no longer here, I will have no income whatsoever, apart from a carers allowance for them solely caring for my disabled husband.
Feel like I am sorting everyone else and when they are gone I will be on my own with nothing
My husband actually said to me a few weeks ago, when I said I wasn’t feeling that great ...., that I had better last for at least five years or our son would end up in care, because he wouldn’t be able to look after him.
I feel sometimes that I have no life except to be the one who does everything for others, with a very bleak future
I would like to think that if I sought employment later that an employer would give me a chance , but in this day and age I doubt it.
I am 56 years of age now and would have only state pension to live on.
Hi OP, I'm sorry that I don't have any advice for you, but I'm bumping your thread in the hope that someone else sees it and can help.
Are you in touch with any support agencies for carers?
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