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Lockdown effect on mental health(15 Posts)
At the beginning I was ok with it was actually enjoying being at home with the other half and three kids. Time was more slowed down and chilled in comparison to rushing from one place to the next.
However now cabin fever is setting in and I’m seriously anxious/depressed. Not sure how much longer I can cope with this, it’s just not natural.
Please tell me I’m not the only one feeling like this? Starting to go a bit stir crazy?!
I'm sure you're not the only one feeling like this! It's the middle of a global pandemic and you're having to look after 3 children at home 24/7 as well as juggling everything else which is really unusual for such a long period of time.
I'm in a similar boat but I had MH problems before lockdown. I had a whole plan of how this year would be... New job / renovation project on house etc etc and it's all ground to a halt! I adore my dc but so difficult to be sorting them and my elderly parents out constantly. I've hit such a wall this week!
I have no fab advice unfortunately but be kind to yourself and allow yourself to acknowledge how hard it is... Take it one day at a time and find little things you enjoy, coffee/film/wine/walk etc.
If you start to feel like this is setting in give your GP a call. I've got some telephone therapy starting next week so they are still delivering MH services remotely.
I feel you! I have just moved to a totally new area which was going fab however three weeks since moving in lockdown started and don’t i know anyone! I feel really lonely and homesick and I’m trying to stay upbeat for my little girl and OH who has just started to work for himself but I am really struggling. It’s such a crappy situation and I can’t wait for it all to be over!! No help unfortunately but your definitely not the only one feeling like this if it helps! xx
I'm the same. Dh working full time, stuck at home with a 5 month old who cries every time I try to video call anyone. Desperate for someone to come round and take baby for an hour, but of course no one can. Strongly suspect baby is also bored shitless of being in the house all day, and she no longer recognises her grandparents and presumably believes that she, dh and I are the only 3 humans on earth.
No doubt someone will turn up and tell me to just be grateful I have a healthy baby. To that person I say: go fuck yourself.
I am feeling awful atm. My DD was 10 weeks at the start of lockdown. First time mum, OH has had to work throughout it all. On local lockdown now. I have a tired relationship with my mum and if I try to vent she basically says I should be grateful for a good baby and good boyfriend. And I am, and I know I'm sometimes just being a crank, but I also feel as though I need a cuddle, and an evening to reconnect with my OH too. Needless to say DD hasn't ever been looked after by, or hardly held by anyone else. I am consumed by love for her but also guilt for feeling a little bit suffocated. I don't think its PND, but definitely difficult circumstances this year and tough on relationships.
Tableclothing, your comment made me lol!
I am the same. Totally adore my boys, but my god I NEED some time to myself. To do absolutely nothing. I am sick of being attached to a child constantly and trying to entertain them. We live in a new area too, I don’t know anyone. Not sure what to do except get up again tomorrow and do it all over again
Really anxious and depressed. Crying, irritable, you name it, I got it! Lost my job due to Covid and having the kids around all the time for 6 months is getting to me. I think I used to mentally reset on the couple of days I had some time to myself. I can't wait to get some of that time back.
Things were going so well until mid March, now I feel at the end of my rope.
You are not the only one. I’ve been fine until this last month and at times have felt like the walls have been falling in on me.
Lockdown has been so bad for my mental health. I felt like I was doing quite we’ll the first couple of months. Well for me anyway as I do suffer with depression and anxiety. As soon as my dd went back to nursery I crashed and burned. Life doesn’t feel the same anymore and I am questioning everything. I feel suffocated and don’t know how to escape it
Still not back at work as “non-essential” office worker (Scotland)
All the days blur into one. Mental health now very fragile as can’t see a future or us ever going back to work. Really not coping at all
Please get help if you are feeling very low. I saw a counselor today for an hour who assured me that these feelings are to be expected in these times. Keep being honest with loved ones, avoid anyone negative or toxic and remember this WILL come to a stop. Our babies will all be well adjusted and not hate us Love out to you all, hard times. Xxx
Just wanted to post a positive message (sorry about the not v positive user name): was fine til June or so, then serious cabin fever, last week felt starting to get depressed
Few days away helping, feel my old self again... it’s possible to ward off a downward spiral, doing things you enjoy or used to enjoy seems to be part of it...
Same here, I'm finding it awful. As well as the pandemic, lockdown etc my partner left me in June claiming mental health difficulties. I have endured weeks of texts and calls: home tomorrow, home on ----, coming back etc. He was my best friend and the real reason he sodded off was try out a new partner whom he'd met through Facebook. Just have to believe things will get better, not just in my life but right across the world too.
He doesn't sound worth your time and effort tbh. Give yourself a break. Xx
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