Not in a good place

[Theodoreb]

I have 3 dc with severe SN and I have bipolar and schizophrenia, and I broke my foot shortly before Christmas (which hasn't healed as I haven't been able to sit and rest) i was in a car crash Monday other drivers fault all on cctv since then my back is in agony my neck is hurting and I have a constant headache and my copd started getting bad last night.

My mum lives with me however does nothing to help she does the cleaning that you can't deny is hers which is basically just her bedroom but won't contribute to shared chores like recycling, sorting rubbish, getting bin in and putting it out cleaning the bathroom. I have been bad for weeks, and she hasn't given me any help at all apart from washing the dishes one night when I sat in the kitchen and cried in pain, (the foot has been broken about 5 weeks). The foot has not healed at all as I haven't stayed off my foot.

On top of that she comes in from work snapping at me cus one of my kids has left a cup in her room, and she knows I'm in agony yet told my grandad I would go pick him up and drive him round because she can't do it as she is working. I wouldn't normally mind but I'm driving a courtesy car and I'm anxious of driving in it which she knows and I'm in absolute agony and I'm tired.

Then today final straw I phoned her in work to say my mental health is really bad I'm anxious and depressed and she just said "well I don't know what to say I'm in work I don't have time for this"

I feel suicidal but won't do anything as I know my dc only have me and they need me to be here and no one else gonna care for them like I do. So there no way I'm going to do anything.

you probably all think I'm being spoilt and entitled but I just don't understand why she doesn't seem to care that I'm really struggling and could use some help any help would do even if she had just given me a hug or asks how I am feeling with everything. I should say however she looks after my dc every Saturday from 7-11 for me to go out with my friend.

[Russell19]

Have you asked her outright for what you need? Why don't you say specifically what you want her to help with?