I've just posted on the development thread regarding my nephew, who at 7 has in the heat of a tantrum said he will "kill himself" and has even gone so far as to go and get a knife (though not a sharp one.) My gut instinct is that this is not right and that he may need help. I could be wrong. Would really appreciate any advice. Thanks.
My DD did this at a similiar age in the heat of a tantrum. I felt the same and was about to whisk her off for some counselling but she only did it a couple of times, then she ran away (quite a successful bid for freedom as it turned out) but then she has become less hysterical. We still have big tantrums but I reckon there have been no knives/running away for the last 18 months.
Thanks so much for your replies - I can't tell you how much it has helped. Trying to remain calm seems important. Am going to sit down now with mil and see what we can do to help as a family, and wait see if it is just a phase. Thanks so much everyone.
poor you, very worrying for you. But it makes me wonder if the little boy cannot possibly understand the implications of what he is saying, other than getting him lots of attention. I'm not suggesting he is attention seeking in a naughty way, but children are not equipped to say, i need help because, so they do what they can to get attention, if you see what i mean. I guess it must be a bit like breath holders. Has this little boy been exposed to suicide within the family or on the telly or something like that? The trouble is i guess, in as much as he probably doesnt really get that dead means, dead, thats it, no more chances and therefore the seriousness of it isnt quite as great as you perceive. But he should be kept and eye on i suppose, is there other stuff going on in his life just now?
My dh's dd said the same thing a couple of times between 6/7yrs old. we wondered if she'd heard her dm say it, or some such, but she hasn't said anything in a long time. maybe it's "normal" around this age.
my 7 yr old, when i upset her, says "now i want to die" occasionally. i have lectured her on seriousness of this as she is quite old enough to understand imo. I think she's just expressing that she feels bad, there is nothing traumatic going on & it isn't often so hopefully it will go away.
T'is horrible tho.
Just a thought but how did his mum react when he did this? I doubt he really understands what it means to kill himself and I suspect he is using it as a way of getting a reaction. It does sound as though something is troubling him though given what you said on your other thread.
When ds started school a couple of years ago his behaviour suddenly deteriorated and things were very very difficult. He was only 4 and he didn't threaten to kill mimself but he did tell me that he wanted to be dead. When I asked him why he said it was because if he was dead he couldn't be naughty anymore. That broke my hear and even now, over 2 years later, it brings tears to my eyes to think about it.
probably doesn't understand the seriousness of what he's saying -maybe it's influenced by something he's seen on TV or in a film ?(to get attention) - rather than being prompted by him actually having the feeling that he wants to die and the knowledge that he could achieve that by hurting himself with a knife..???