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I am a horrible mummy..

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moodlumthehoodlum Wed 01-Aug-07 16:28:28

Today I have been a horrible, snappy, shouty meany mummy.

This morning I was just so grumpy and horrid to dcs, but at the moment it is so blardy hard.. DD is 3 and DS is 2, and it is just one squabble after another, and it is exhausting and so wearing..

I am so short tempered, and I can see dd picking up bad habits from me, which depresses me even more.

I had a little pity party in the kitchen and cried a lot about pretty much nothing - I'm so lucky with my children and being able to stay at home with them, but sometimes it is such hard work. And all my neighbours will have heard me snapping at ds, so I'm sure that everyone now knows I'm a horrible mummy..

OK moan and confession of being mean and shouty over with.

NAB3 Wed 01-Aug-07 16:30:18

Unless it gets physical leave the kids to sort it out themselves. You are not a horrible mum. You are like the majority of us, knackered and run ragged. Just because you stay at home doen't mean you can't be peeded off with your day to day life. Kids are bloody hard work. Out the kids in the bath, get everyone to bed early and tomorrow is another day.

moodlumthehoodlum Wed 01-Aug-07 16:34:12

Thank you... You're right. Supper, bath, bed.

Sometimes at home with dcs it is impossible to get any perspective and you imagine that everyone else is sweetness and light with their children all the time, when I suppose everyone has off days.

thank you!

Pinkchampagne Wed 01-Aug-07 16:38:26

I feel like this frequently with my two, especially during school holidays! I find being at work easier than being home all day with my two fighting, and I work in a primary school! Being a mum can be the toughest job in the world, it really can!

moodlumthehoodlum Wed 01-Aug-07 16:40:50

Yup. As being a mummy is now my 'job', I think its fair to say that I've had a bad day in the office, and have had some 'difficult client issues'!!

RGPargy Wed 01-Aug-07 16:43:41

I feel like a meany horrid snappy mummy too at the moment. My DS is 17!!!!

moodlumthehoodlum Wed 01-Aug-07 16:44:59

So that answers the "does it get any better question then"!!!

RGPargy Wed 01-Aug-07 16:45:44

Well yes, i spose it does. But at least you can swear at them when they're 17 and not feel guilty!!

Judy1234 Wed 01-Aug-07 16:46:23

This is why you should get back to full time work. It's much easier.

RGPargy Wed 01-Aug-07 16:46:43

Oh and my DS is a job-avoiding greedy locust so that's why i am shouty mummy atm.

RGPargy Wed 01-Aug-07 16:47:13

Ah yes Xenia, but then the guilt gets you in the end!!

moodlumthehoodlum Wed 01-Aug-07 16:48:52

This morning I nearly picked up the phone to a recruitment consultant and offered my lifetime services for free.

Lolly68 Wed 01-Aug-07 16:51:19

I go to work for a rest after the weekend with my DD!!

Judy1234 Wed 01-Aug-07 16:51:59

No guilty here but people differ. There can be more guilt being nasty to children.

What about checking if you have PMT or need to change your diet?

RGPargy Wed 01-Aug-07 16:53:50

I know what you mean Xenia. I have worked all my DS's life. Plan to go part time with this LO tho, and i'm really looking forward to it! (older and wiser etc)

moodlumthehoodlum Wed 01-Aug-07 16:56:16

I agree. At least when I went back to work (albeit part time) after dd but before ds, although I had less time with her, we were probably all nicer to each other because we appreciated the time together more.

BecklePhoenixBird Wed 01-Aug-07 16:58:38

Had a similar day to you Moodlum, DSs (7 & 4.5) have been fighting and arguing loads. Whats worse is that I work from home answering the phone and while some days are nice and quiet, today has been a not only did I snap at them but I have had no time for them either. Poor little men.
But as others have said, tomorrow is another day and hopefully will be a better one!

calordan Wed 01-Aug-07 17:02:02

shove them in the bath regardless of the time of day, i feel this all the time, some days dh has come in at 5 and kids are in bed and i am sitting with g&t, actually not since they were 2/3 so either it gets easier or they can tell its not bedtime yet.

moodlumthehoodlum Wed 01-Aug-07 17:04:33

LOL calordan. I'm going to do exactly that. In fact, I think I'll make the g&t to accompany bathtime, early bathtime brings much less guilt than small children glued to Cbeebies.

Meeely2 Wed 01-Aug-07 17:07:07

hey moodlum, cbeebies has saved my sanity! Night garden is my saviour (we bought igglepiggle and makka pakka from tesco yesterday!)

moodlumthehoodlum Wed 01-Aug-07 17:09:27

Oh I know.. I practically stroked the sky box this afternoon after finding a Night Garden episode recorded on it just in the nick of time.

americantrish Wed 01-Aug-07 17:59:39

we ALL have days like this.
and anyone who says they dont is either :
or has a nanny :p

i was screamy, shouty mommy yesterday.
lots of toast and cbeebies.

my neighbours have NO doubt heard me yell at ds (who is also 3).

we all blow up. we all explode. we all feel overwhelmed. we're human.

dont beat yourself up. and remember, tomorrow is another day. and remember, its probably almost bedtime!!!


you're not horrible!

Pinkchampagne Wed 01-Aug-07 18:17:11

I have lost count of the times I have felt like an unfit mother because I feel almost defeated by my own childrens behaviour, yet I can deal with the most challanging behaviour from children at work, and get results, but can be reduced to tears by my own.
Sorry I have no great advice, but just wanted to let you know you are not alone in feeling this way.

franch Wed 01-Aug-07 18:22:04

Oh god moodlum I could have written your post - have just sat down at the computer after exactly the day you describe, including the tears (mine), trying to summon the will to make their tea and knowing that if I don't get a move on they'll be late to bed and then I'll be late to bed and we'll be on a downward spiral ...

My DDs are nearly 2 and 3.5 and are currently in front of CBeebies ...

DH currently leaving at the crack of dawn and getting home 10pm earliest (sometimes the early hours). And no matter how many playdates and stuff I arrange, it's still bloody lonely.

Good to know I'm not alone, anyway.


cerys Wed 01-Aug-07 18:28:52

I had one of those days on Monday. It was horrible.
Some good advice here and you are not alone - I have 1 more child than you, but I could have written your post.

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