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How Do I Deal With This

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HelpPls Thu 19-Jul-07 10:55:43

My dp is depressed we have been to the docs and he has been on antidepressants for a month now, we havent seen any improvement and yesterday the doc said to stick with them for another 3 weeks, however he is feeling really low and very suicidal, there seems to be no sense to it, not trigger, and i dont know what to do - he is alot lower today and im really worried about hims, I have a newborn and an older dc i dont have the time to molicodal him and each time i try and talk tp him he trues to think i am trying to get rid of him, i have suggested that the pressures he is under to provide are too much for him and that we should move nearer my mums so i have some support and can work

any advice would be grateful x

muppetgirl Thu 19-Jul-07 10:59:12

Is he on prozac -fluoxitine?
If he is then one of the side effects for some people is that it can give you the symptoms of depression. I was on it for about a month and was feeling a lot worse than before taking them. I went back and discussed my desperate feelings and I was changed onto a different AD.
There are many types, the one you dh is on may not be the best for him.

muppetgirl Thu 19-Jul-07 11:01:30

Have a look at this it explains the different antidepressants and the different symptoms they treat.

Meeely2 Thu 19-Jul-07 11:01:49

just taking pills will not help him, and as the previous poster said, they may be the wrong ones. Your DP will need councelling too once the pills have kicked in (to be honest mine had started working after a month), so he needs to get back to the doc, explain how he feels (if he can) and request to be put forward for a councelling course.

muppetgirl Thu 19-Jul-07 11:02:35

sorry try this and put in anitdepressants

muppetgirl Thu 19-Jul-07 11:08:43

Totallly agre with meeely2

I was give 12 prescriptions of prozac and not given any follow up app with the dr.
This isn't how it should be. The AD should work as a 'leveller' that levels your mood/calms you down that enables you to start to engage with life but, most importantly of all, helps you begin to address the issues that are causing your dh's depression.

I had counselling but only once a fortnight which didn't help as I was left with too many thoughts going round my head, a lot of them pretty scarey. I was then referred to the mental health team who assessed me and decided that psychology was the best option. I have received weekly psychology sessions that encompass cognitive behaviour therapy -how our thoughts effect our minds which then effects our behaviour, change the thoughts, change the behaviour. This has really helped. I am now off the AD's so once on them, you are not tied to them.

saffymum Thu 19-Jul-07 11:13:42

when you go on ad's you need to focus yourself on thinking what you can do to improve your situation, look for positives and put the effort in too. They do take longer than a month to kick in and the first month can make you drowsy and feel a little subdued.

HelpPls Thu 19-Jul-07 11:41:48

Thanks all - he is not on prozac it is a differant one, the doc said there was no point councelling at this point as his thoughts were so ingrained that until he was "levelled" it wouldnt be beneficial, it is really hard seeing someone you love heading for somewhere so dark and not knowing how to help them, there are so many positives in his live and he knows this but he says he is just being overwhelmed bythese bad thoughts

Meeely2 Thu 19-Jul-07 14:42:17

Fluoxetine is the most common i think (which is actually Prozac) and thats what I was on, but if his dark thoughts are very ingrained it could well take more than a month to work.

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