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I've had to phone the police about my friend tonight. His phone has been ringing engaged for over 10 days :(

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newlifenewname Fri 13-Jul-07 20:03:47

He has a dual diagnosis of bipolar with schizotypal behaviour and was very low when I last spoke to him. I didn't call him back when I said I would because I was exhausted from travlleing up to Glasgow to pick up my car. Most of the journey up there overnight was spent on the phone to him 'just chatting'. He was very needy when we spoke.

Anyway, last thing I had from his was a message on my voicemail asking me to ask ex dp not to "keep calling me and putting the phone down". He and ex dp were very best mates before xdp started being awful to me. They are less close but still mates and ex dp wouldn't have done this I really don't think.

I left a voicemail back saying I'd passed on the message but wasn't comfortable being 'messenger' hope he was okay and not avoiding my call by swithching off phone and having landline off the hook.

It might even be 2 weeks that his phone has been ringing engaged.

I've called all the hospitals and he hasn't been admitted. Police are going to do a priority 'welfare visit'.

I so hope he is okay and just having some time out.

cerys Fri 13-Jul-07 20:05:34

so sorry to hear this, you must be very worried about him. Take care.

TheMuppetMuggle Fri 13-Jul-07 20:06:14

Sorry to hear this,

Hope he's okay

CalifrauniusFudge Fri 13-Jul-07 20:08:36

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newlifenewname Fri 13-Jul-07 20:15:45

Thank you.

Not entirely sure why I felt the need to post this. I think, like many of us, I feel a bit funny about involving the police. Always expect (and hope!) that the person will be sitting there watching the telly oblivious to the worry felt by those around!

Does anyone know if priority will mean tonight?

newlifenewname Fri 13-Jul-07 21:49:56

Still not heard anything, phone still on busy tone.

CalifrauniusFudge Fri 13-Jul-07 21:54:29

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newlifenewname Fri 13-Jul-07 21:59:15

Yes. I rang Virgin before calling police as I thought he could have knocked it off the hook/not paid the bill.

I expalined exactly my concerns the the woman on the phone and she was truly helpful and said she couldn't say too much - as I expected - but that h emay say have barred all incoming calls, nudge, nudge, wink wink.

This could be a good sign or bad. Who knows? I've sent him two texts today asking him to simply let me know he's okay. He would if he was iyswim unless he was either, well, dead, or otherwise very, very deep in a psychotic episode.

legalalien Fri 13-Jul-07 22:40:33

nlnn, you really are far too good a person for your own good. I've been there and done that in respect of bipolar others before and (as I may or may not have told you and probably not) just about destroyed my life over it once.

You're you and will keep involving yourself in the lives of others and I really respect you for it.

Left you a voicemail on your phone ages ago, so PLEASE PLEASE stop any kind of "silly" pride /embarrassment thing and get in touch. Apart from anything else, R, who can now talk, asks about H (even though he couldn't speak at the time) and wants to see her. Hey, he's still weird.


AL (formerly from Brockley and you know who I am. If you google you can see the ongoing saga of my depression......)

newlifenewname Fri 13-Jul-07 22:48:28

Oh I replied! I replied!

I think you must be the lady who once had a carboard rocket takign over her sitting room?!

And I said I was going to call but I haven't had time because the kids get all shouty about the time you get home from work and then I fall asleep or you are probably asleep, blah! blah!

I have replied a few times actually but then didn't hear back so sorta thought you might be erm, avoiding me.?


ItsPotatoesForYouMyLad Fri 13-Jul-07 22:53:59

if police have said a priority visit - this means different to different officers ime. it should mean that they will fit it in asap around other planned work and any unplanned / emergency work that comes up on shift.
hope all is ok

legalalien Fri 13-Jul-07 22:57:02

excellent, hopefully then an issue re my change of mobile number rather than anything else (since I didn't get the reply)


So - practical considerations, best time to call is on weekends or else between 7 and 8pm on weekdays.

what's the best way to contact you? same number as before and I should leave a message with a contact number? Think we are unlisted now.

ps nice haircut. I STILL wish I had decent hair.

nigglewiggle Fri 13-Jul-07 23:02:21

In the circumstances you have outlined I would be extremely surprised if the Police do not visit tonight. They may not call you back with an update if it gets too late, so if you are up all night worrying, then I would call back for an update. They should be able to give you a log number to quote when you call to make it easier.

Hope all is well.

newlifenewname Fri 13-Jul-07 23:05:29

Thanks for reassurance potatoes!

So crafty lady for tracking me down, <snigger>

I am going to a food thing this weekend and picking up a bike for Feli boy (his on 17th) but will endeavour to call over the weekend. Think I stored your no. but you can email all your new contact stuff to ikeaphobe at yahoo dot co dot uk if you like so that I cannot fail to get hold of you!

Just read your post - I'd actually read it on the day you posted it and had NO IDEA it was you! So, your friends didn't make babies when they moved to Brockley then?

Gosh! I so want to catch up with you all. Free for a visit in the school hols?

newlifenewname Fri 13-Jul-07 23:06:25

Thnaks nigglewiggle too

legalalien Fri 13-Jul-07 23:09:32

ikea phobe - love it. will send details w/out doubt.

surprised you didn't recognise me but there are a lot of us about..... definitely around for school hols (hols booked for first week after school hols when the price reduces by about 33 %, since R still small, think will hold him back about three years so can continue to benefit from non=peak holiday rates.....

CalifrauniusFudge Sat 14-Jul-07 19:54:45

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bran Sat 14-Jul-07 19:55:23

There's another thread about this Califrau, very sad news I'm afraid.

bran Sat 14-Jul-07 19:57:24


CalifrauniusFudge Sat 14-Jul-07 20:03:26

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