I have had a long standing friend who has often made me feel bad about myself, making me feel a nuisance, making me feel stupid by snappy remarks etc. I've always tried to tell her how it makes me feel and forgiven her, tried to help her more etc. [She has some problems]. When not like this she is fine, helpful and good company. So I cut her a lot of slack.
But as she gets older, has promotion, has her own house now etc. it's getting worse and now I'm worn down and can't take any more sniping or her bad moods. I hate confrontation and I know trying to talk things through never works, just makes her angry and there's a row as I try and stand up for myself.
Now after being snapped [shouted] at yet again whilst trying to help her do something, I feel like I have snapped too. I can't take any more.I have not been in contact and do not wish to be. I'm sure she won't contact me, it's always me trying to sort things out.
That's ok but I live on my own, retired through ill health, no other close friends, family all busy and distant. I will be ok in the end I suppose, but I know I will falter as time goes on. [Usually forgive her and miss the good bits of the friendship].
I've been an idiot but now I must look after my mental well being. But it's going to be tough. Any tips? I know I must keep busy but can't stop thinking how I am going to be even more lonely than I already was.
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beachcomber243 · 08/11/2018 21:24
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