A tricky one to explain! But I'll try my best without sounding a bit daft
From ages 11-16 I was bullied mercilessly at secondary school, mainly because i was different..I was poorer than my classmates who were all from a better background! They lived comfortably where as my parents worked every hour under the sun to keep food on the table and the roof over our heads, I was a bit gothic too, small and chubby while the other girls were tall, skinny and leggy! I stuck out like a sore thumb! In the end, I thought about suicide, didn't want to be around people, didn't want to go to school as I would break out into a sweat and shake just thinking about it! It got so bad my parents kept me off school for weeks! They didn't care if they got into trouble or not! I did once retaliate and slap someone..and got in a lot of trouble!..my grade suffered and so did a lot of other things! I didn't have a single friend and was very lonely!
I've been left school for 13 years now, and I just can't seem to shake the hate! I have a few of them on my Facebook and to see them all doing so well with their own businesses, marriages, nice houses gets me so angry when really I just want them to lose it all so they know how it feels! I just wish karma would hurry up and give em the ass whooping I never could!
From school I now have social anxiety, I don't like talking to strangers and when anyone tries to talk to me I clam up, I get palpitations and I just generally panic! (If I don't know them well), I'm definitely not a people person even though I work in a supermarket! I have my own children now (boy aged 6 and a girl aged 6 months) and my heart is literally in my throat all day when he's at school as I keep thinking he's going to suffer the same fate as me :/
I find myself so angry nowadays at what happened to me, that I always say if I saw anyone in the street that tormented me in school I wouldn't think twice about swinging for them or even worse dealing some damage!
I've had counselling for it but it did nothing for me! These anger pangs are just part of me I've got used to!
But can past events really make you a horrible person later on in life? Can I change my ways at all? I really need help as I'm struggling with it so much :(
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Can past events make you a horrible person? - mental problems?
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ScreechOwlx · 14/08/2018 15:51
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