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How do you tell someone that they might be depressed?

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paganmolloy Wed 14-Feb-18 09:53:38

Just that really.
It was only when someone at my DH's work went off with stress and other issues and he'd brought home some leaflets to read on how to help him and how to spot signs of mental health issues in his team that the penny dropped and I realised that she was displaying many of the signs: withdrawal, touchy, always complaining or moaning, weight gain, addiction to diet coke and many others but never seeming to get out the rut. She lives far away so we only get to meet once or twice a year and each time she gets worse in that it's a weekend of constant moaning about how shite her life is. I got to the point where I can't be arsed listening to her anymore but these leaflets really got me thinking that she is suffering from depression without knowing it. It's hard to be supportive when she's so far away and easy for her to withdraw - hardly replies to texts or emails and if she does they are terse. Too busy to take calls etc. We've a girly weekend booked in September and myself and another friend are going to try to talk to her about it gently. I can't help feel like I'm about to poke a tiger with a hot stick but I really do think she needs professional help. Other friend agrees.

paganmolloy Wed 14-Feb-18 13:38:16


JamPasty Thu 15-Feb-18 22:44:42

I'm no expert, but I've not heard of touchy, always complaining/moaning and addiction to diet coke as symptoms of depression.

retirednow Fri 16-Feb-18 12:38:31

Who,is it you are worried about, family, friend, colleague,

ineedamoreadultieradult Fri 16-Feb-18 12:43:15

As this is someone you have very little contact with and your reasons for deciding she is depressed seem flaky at best I would leave her well alone.

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