Hi I've nc for this because I feel bad about it I suppose. My DH has recently spiralled into quite severe anxiety and I'm not sure what to do. He lies awake all night worrying about inconsequential stuff mainly related to work. The atmosphere at home is awful and I feel dread every day at what the next problem is going to be. He is in the process of being redeployed and is considering applying for a part time role at a lower band which I'm fully supportive of as he's clearly not able to deal with more at the moment and I'm able to up my workload, which to be honest will be difficult for me along with having to deal with the kids and now him as well as a drop in household income so I really want him to help himself get better. He's started a course of Setirazine today. The issue is that I don't know what else to do if anything. After another sleepless night, I'm wondering whether this is a terrible idea: I was going to sit down with him and write out a timetable of things he needs to do. He is a terrible procrastinator even before this but the fact that he now spends so much time worrying nothing gets done which makes him more stressed. I was thinking we could do a timetable together for example : Friday he can dictate his job application to me and I'll type it up, Saturday go to yoga, and agree days he should go swimming after work. I've asked him to do dry January with me but he refused. I wonder if I should insist? He probably drinks a can of strong beer a night so not excessive amounts. I'm normally quite laid back and not bossy (even though I know I sound like it here) but I'm wondering whether if I just tell him what to do for a bit it will take some of the pressure off and then if it makes him feel better he'd be able to keep going? It might help me to not feel as if my life is spiralling into a sea of shit which I have no control over too. To he honest, my only other thought is to tell him to bugger off to his mothers for a couple of weeks to give me a break from it all!
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