I need some advice or ideas on what do with my mentally and physically ill sister. Sorry it's a long one.
She is 36 and was diagnosed with Aspergers about six years ago, she also has depression and other mental health issues. Physically she suffers from fibromyalgia and is in a wheel chair and can't walk.
She is currently being cared for by my parents. The issue is that she is abusive and controlling towards both my parents and she self harms. Over the years, since teenage hood, she has attempted subside more times than I can remember.
She is especially bad towards my mum. My mum still works full time as well as care for my sister. The abuse is both physical, mental and emotional. My mum is covered in bruises from where my sister has hit her. She pulls her hair and throws stuff at her when she has a meltdown, which is pretty much every day now. My sister also is stoping her from sleeping and is sometimes stopping her from eating. When we visited a couple of days ago she said to my mum, 'you can't eat because you fucked up today. It's all your fault.' ( if you don't do things exactly how my sister wants them to be done. She'll have a meltdown. She also moves the goal posts constantly) She regularly threatens to kill my mum and keeps on telling her that it's all my mum's fault that she is in the condition that she's in. It's like she is punishing her for it.
My sister is also stopping my mum from having a relationship with me and her granddaughter (my two month old DD). My sister won't let mum visit me and when she tries she has a meltdown and either constantly calls or won't let her go. (She'll self harm to stop my mum from leaving)
My mum is now a shadow of her former self, she losing weight at an alarming rate and I'm very worried about her mental state too. She isn't coping and my sister seems to have complete control of her. My mum is constantly making excuses on her behalf saying, 'it's ok, it's her condition.' She's also lying to the social services saying she is not doing the things she's doing and covering up her bruises.
I can't sit back and do nothing anymore. Since her diagnosis my sister has become ever more violent and abusive, and her physical health has deteriorated. I feel like I'm losing my mother. She is 61 and this can't go on.
Has anyone ever delt with a similar situation or have experience with sectioning or finding residential care for mentally and physically ill adults. ( they live in Wales) any advice will be appreciated I just don't know what to do.
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Advice on what to do with my mentally ill sister
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kittycymraeg · 17/12/2017 12:38
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