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Options for counselling/therapy/life coaching

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CrestedTit · 10/12/2017 10:57

I would be grateful for any advice, especially from people who know about different kinds of therapy, or who have tried life coaching.

I am 35 and have had ongoing "low level" (but increasing) MH problems for a number of years. I have an eating problem (binge eating) and am very often anxious, irritable and agitated. I spend an inordinate amount of time procrastinating or otherwise avoiding certain tasks or problems because I feel incapable of dealing with them and seem to have spent years of my life with my head in the sand. In the last 12 months I have self harmed and had suicidal thoughts/plans (these are not ongoing right now).

Unsurprisingly, all this is affecting my relationship and my ability to lead my life in the way that I would want to and I worry that if I were to have children it would affect them too.

I want to address these issues but I just don't know how. I have previously had "cognitive analytic therapy" via the NHS for my eating problems - it was nice to speak to someone sympathetic for an hour a week but nothing actually changed.

More recently I've been seeing a private "integrative psychotherapist" who again is very nice, but I don't feel that she is really helping me make changes.

I have been put off CBT after trying to follow Christopher Fairburn's book on binge eating which I feel made me much worse, but I wouldn't totally rule it out.

I want to get help to change but I have no idea what branches of therapy are available, let alone how to choose one or how to choose an individual therapist. Part of me thinks that having a kick up the arse by a life coach would be the best way forward but maybe they are just a rip off?? And most of their profiles talk about helping clients make big life changes to their careers etc, rather than just improve the life they have..

Anyway.. if you have indulged me by reading this far - thank you. Any advice or ideas would be gratefully received.

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Bumpsadaisie · 12/12/2017 17:03

Have you tried psychoanalytic psychotherapy?

See here. www.bpc.org.uk/psychoanalysis-and-psychotherapy

Any of the therapists listed on the BPC website have undergone intense training and their own personal therapy for four years at least.

Any also see in more detail here www.bpc.org.uk/sites/psychoanalytic-council.org/files/Mind-opt.pdf

The aim is to discover the things you don't yet know about how your 'psychological furniture' is arranged. Once you know what your patterns of relating and experience are, you can think about them consciously, rather than been ruled by them and acting something out that you can't quite understand.

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