I don't really know where to start.
I've suffered with social anxiety all my life, I'm now 30. I have never been able to hold down a job for longer than a couple of months.
I've always avoided a lot of things as a way of coping with it, but now I'm dealing with the consequences of these choices - I feel like I just can't be around other people.
I had a partner that I was with for over ten years, he kept going behind my back and sexting other women that he knew. I found the strength to leave him even though he was pretty much my life for so long.
I'm now back living with my Mum, I'm trying to build a new life for myself but I don't know if I will ever get to a point where I can lead a normal productive life :(
I started doing a craft course for people with anxiety issues and I've now missed 3 out of 6 of the sessions. I couldn't sleep last night and just spent the night crying with the anxiety spiralling out of control. I should be there now but I'm just sitting here in my pyjamas feeling sorry for myself.
Basically every little thing that I've been worrying about just went round and round in my head through the night. Worried about my health( having investigations for IBD), my mums health, worrying that she might get sick and die and then I'll be alone and unable to cope with anything. Worrying about my insomnia flaring up more. I worry so much about sleeping and then I can't.
I don't know if I'll ever be able to have another relationship or if I even ever want one. I felt pressured to have sex with my ex at times and don't know how I feel about having sex with a new partner, as I have health issues and don't know how I'd cope with someone if they had a higher sex drive again. It's like they have this claim on your body and I don't like it :(
It's been 7 months since we split up and I don't feel anywhere near wanting to date anyone else.
My ex also used to get angry, he was never physically violent to me but to himself. He would punch things, and even got to the point where he'd punch himself in the head.
I got so upset this morning that I started slapping myself round the head and it made me feel like I was as bad as him. It was something he did that I hated and now I'm doing it to myself.
When I get myself into such a state I get suicidal thoughts which upsets me even more. As I don't want to kill myself, I have my mum and a good friend so that is what stops me.
I think the whole point of this post is just I'm scared for my future if I'm unable to push myself to do things. I don't know if I can ever get close to people again, even if it's just friendships as a lot of the time I just feel like I want to be alone.
That and I just generally feel very sad, I hope someone out there can relate, or give me some kind of hope. Sorry if this is a bit jumbled up I just needed to get it all out of my head, and for another human being to read how I feel, as I feel very alone right now.
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I don't know if I can overcome social anxiety
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hadenough9 · 21/11/2017 11:39
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