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Could I have autism or asperger

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help005 Tue 14-Nov-17 09:55:49

I don't want to upset anyone. I know my issues might be down to my personality so I'm sorry if what I say causes offence.

In not sure whether I have low intelligence / no common sense or whether it might be something else.

I just don't seem to cope with life. Every aspect is difficult and I feel like a child 35. I've started a new job which I cannot do. It's easy it's not difficult but to me I cannot understand.

I can't make decisions. I just want to be home all the time.

I've had cbt for routines anxiety and OCD. I've been on tablets years. Currently setraline.

I can't cope with my kids. They don't listen to me. My husband is never home. I don't think it's just depression.

I need to work but every single job I've had I've caused major issues and eventually I've left.

Could it be more? Even if I am diagnosed it's tough right?

In sorry again. I know people with this are still intelligent in bit saying they're not. Also I don't want to hide behind a label if this is me and I'm just dopey / immature.

Thanks xx

help005 Tue 14-Nov-17 09:58:15

Forgot to add. I hate socialising. Chit chat. I order everything online to avoid shops. I need routine. Hate change. I'm just a negative person X

MerryMarigold Tue 14-Nov-17 10:03:28

What you have described sounds more like depression, but you can easily get depressed if you are having problems dealing with the world. Is there any way your GP can send you for a diagnosis? It would help more to know what specific problems you have had in jobs. Can you list a few jobs you've had and the specific problems you had in them? It is good news that you have not been fired, but left of your own accord. This may mean the mistakes seem bigger in your own head than they actually were (depression). In terms of the kids, mine don't listen to me when I am tired/ depressed. They seem to know that I have zero energy to fight and enforce a boundary and so they push it and I don't have the energy to enforce it. It's always what you need the least but it seems to happen every time I am ill in any shape or form.

help005 Tue 14-Nov-17 10:18:59

Hi thanks for your reply.i was going to phone the doctors today.

Another issue is a hate using the phone.

I don't know what to say to the receptionist.

Work problems:

Giving customers too much change. Giving refunds but giving them too much money. Forgetting how to log onto computers. Answering the phone with details of a previous company. Shutting the door with they keys still in but the door locks behind.
Putting clothes next to a heater burning them. Sending wrong deliveries out. I could go on.

I need the money but I'm scared to go to work as I know I'll mess up.

My current job is only over Christmas.
I'll need to apply again but I know I'll mess up.

RandomMess Tue 14-Nov-17 10:26:41

It could a whole raft of things.

Have you completed any on the on line tests?

Have you looked at dyslexia, dyspraxia, dysgraphia?

If you struggle with life due the above then it is likely you will have depression and anxiety too. Anxiety is often part of ASD though!

I would read around the above do some free on line tests and it should help steer the conversation with the GP.

help005 Tue 14-Nov-17 10:32:45

I did this last night I'm not sure how accurate they are.

MerryMarigold Tue 14-Nov-17 10:32:49

Good ideas, Random. Google those things. Dyslexia can make you disorganised and also struggle with working out change, reading clocks etc. If you can work out what it is, with help from research and the doctor, you will be able to have strategies to help.

To be honest, the things you have done, if you did them over several years aren't that bad. Silly mistakes when your mind is elsewhere. If it was over a few months, a bit worse. Take any job you can, if I were you, do it to the best of your ability. Work and being productive really helps depression too.

help005 Tue 14-Nov-17 10:35:04

My daughter is dyslexic but so is my husband so i assumed she ad it from him. In sure I am too but I've never been tested. Maybe it's dyslexia plus anxiety plus OCD. There is no help for me if that's the case? I'm already on tablets X

help005 Tue 14-Nov-17 10:51:06


MerryMarigold Tue 14-Nov-17 10:53:51

Take the scores to the doc and see if they can get you referred to wherever you need to be. But don't give up the job!!!

There should be help available once you've buttoned down what it is.

RandomMess Tue 14-Nov-17 10:54:03

Then yes ask your GP to refer you smile

MerryMarigold Tue 14-Nov-17 10:54:47

PS. I also hate, hate, hate phonecalls. If it's better to go to the doctor reception in person, then do that. They can't ask what the problem is unless you're trying to get an emergency appointment and even then I don't think they could insist.

help005 Tue 14-Nov-17 12:14:18

Thank you both.

My husband is away. I've messaged him and he replied shut up!! 😩

RandomMess Tue 14-Nov-17 13:22:48

I’m mid forties and only just going through the diagnostic process, females really do present very differently. I still haven’t even told my DH that my therapist has told me to get assessed!

help005 Tue 14-Nov-17 13:53:43

Hi sorry can I ask why you feel this way?

What kind of things are you doing / saying that makes you think you may have autism?

Or for example what are the "symptoms" of an adult in their 30s - 40s.

Just do I can compare thanks X

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