Anyone else have doubts about what they have gone through being "severe" enough to result in CPTSD? Years of a variety of mental health problems and life long dysthymia, I have now read up on CPTSD and have concluded that it fits perfectly. However, my inner critic is trying to say to me that I am simply weak, defective, silly and lazy, as physical abuse was mild(ish) and infrequent (from the little I remember of my childhood). However, I was always walking on eggshells around an explosive, emotionally distant dad and smothering, parentifying mother.
I played the role of peace-keeper and confidante. I had no friends (they were actively discouraged) and many children would like level bully me and exclude me. I was terribly isolated, living in a bubble of "shoulds". I don't remember much. Was numb and simply waited I could grow up and move out of the family home. However parents still exert their influence partly due to my inner critic and as a result I feel like "not a real person" and an imposter. I respond to floods of emotions by freezing, so shutting down with excessive sleep (real tiredness), staying indoors all the time and taking more codeine than I should.
Other times, when I worry about what important people think about me, I "fawn" and try to fullfil and pre-empt their wishes, especially if they are upset. This transports me right into being small, powerless and terrified of my dad. I used to hide and/or do things to "placate" him.
Basically I have no idea if I'm a worthy person if I don't make people happy. Also, have no idea who I am outside of what my inner critic tells me I should be. And I always fall short of that.
I have had many periods in my life when I have teetered on the edge of suicidal and thought about ending it all. Not because I want to, but because I feel scared of criticism and abandonment, and am exhausted the hypervigilance and of trying to be someone I'm not.
I'm ok at the moment. Waiting to start a new job, so imposter syndrome churning out terrifying scenarios. But also going to start therapy in two weeks with someone who does the comprehensive resource model. I hope I can stop a lifelong pattern of exhausting thoughts.
I don't really know what I am saying, but I suppose it would be helpful to hear from people with similar problems and how they are working to overcome them, or have already done so. The most painful bit is the doubt that I am just being a privileged and pathetic snowflake and completely ridiculous and others have had it worse and are just fine...
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CPTSD exhaustion, denial and minimisation
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ConfusedLivingDoll · 08/11/2017 19:14
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