Talk

Flip

Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you have medical concerns, please seek medical attention.

Mental health

Mum Help - Long, Sorry.

0 replies

Gigglepiggle78 · 01/11/2017 13:15

So, I need help, I am becoming fractious and anxious and heading down the depression road (I can feel it coming on me again). The main problem I have is my Mum's depression and anxiety.

She left work about two years ago, signed off sick with A&D then she took early retirement after it became clear that she wasn't going to get help for bullying at work. Forgive me, I probably am being unreasonable but I think she brings some stuff on herself. Anyway, she was put on anti-depressants but decided that she knew better and cut her dosage (again, I've used therapy and talking techniques along with exercise so I've not used medication, not judging, just not something I am knowledgeable about...) recently she decided to come off it all together without telling her doctor, however she still takes medication for:
Diabetes
High Blood Pressure
High Cholesterol
Pain meds for shoulder/neck pain (and see below foot pain)

I have noticed that the levelling off we saw with her attitude to life/love/everything has gone back to how it was before, she is up and down alot, you can't tell her anything, as she knows better, it's really been difficult to deal with or even talk to her.

My last straw was when we were down visiting recently (we live 250 miles away) and went out as a family group, she fell over whilst holding DS's hand and broke her foot, but didn't tell us how bad the pain was, just kept saying she was fine, anyway after x-rays and clinic visits she has a boot on (she did have a plaster but told them she couldn't cope with it) and has upped her pain meds to match, so her dosage was 15mg (of some heavy painkiller, I don't know the name of) butshe has decided she needs 30mg.

I worry about her most of all but I also worry about her judgement and so have decided that I can't let her look after DS anymore. Her and my Dad were great and I felt able to trust them when she was on her meds for A&D but I don't think I can do it anymore.

AIBU? I feel just awful and close to tears just thinking about it...