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Anyone needing support for anxiety/depression come over here! (Please)

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LEMtheoriginal Thu 12-Oct-17 12:34:42

I'm struggling so much just now and could use the support of fellow sufferers.

Right now I'm just putting one foot in front of the other - getting though the day.

studiously ignoring the piece of paper with the number of my old counsellor

Currently unmedicated and trying not to go back but not sure how long that will last.

I would like this thread to be a safe place to come and help each other through the days (and nights). I know there are other threads but feel they are well established and just would like to hear about how people got into their issues and what they do to help themselves.

I am taking my dd2 for a cream tea after school today. It's my say off work. Always a struggle but I'm getting through it.

Anyone? All welcome from those of us feeling a bit sad to those of us battling serious my issues. No judgements allowed just flowerswinebrew whatever helps xx

LEMtheoriginal Thu 12-Oct-17 12:35:58

@Smileandnod hopefully this will work xx

LEMtheoriginal Thu 12-Oct-17 12:36:26

*my= MH

TheOldestCat Thu 12-Oct-17 12:40:21

Sorry to hear you are struggling. Also in a bad place (anxiety) but getting there. Off work today with a migraine so lying in bed and trying to get referred for some talking therapy as that helped four years ago when it was last this bad, but the screen is hurting my eyes.

Cream tea sounds lovely - hope you and DD2 have a good time.

I'm here for you. And for others. No judgement from me; just support and a friendly ear xx

LEMtheoriginal Thu 12-Oct-17 13:36:12

I love your screen name - I'm a veterinary nurse and my favourite animals to care for are lovely old cats.

I hope your migraine goes away soon. They are not fun xx

TheOldestCat Thu 12-Oct-17 14:25:58

Thanks for nice words - it is finally lifting!

What a great job you have - I love the nurses at our vet's practice; they are so kind.

I used to volunteer in a cat shelter and fostered a cat aged 17 - she lived until she was 21! Hence my name.

How are you doing now?

Hope you are getting RL support?

Robotlady Thu 12-Oct-17 15:58:16

Hi OP, I'm so sorry to hear that you're struggling.
I'm so low at the moment and I don't want anybody to feel that way.

I came on here looking for help and cried when I saw the title of your post because I knew I'd be understood.

I've not been too bad of late but had such a bad day today that I feel I'll never feel ok again. I feel like the worst type of person.

Felt this way before many times and slowly came out of it but I realise now that I'm just going to spend the rest of my life like this, making disastrous decisions and then trying to crawl out of the hole.

Taken propanolol. Not sure if it's helped.

LEMtheoriginal Thu 12-Oct-17 16:10:52

Hi robotlady - sorry you are having a shit day. I find I'm very up and down as well. I am feeling a little better as was able to keep busy today. Hopefully tomorrow will be better

Has anyone found counselling useful? My experience is mixed. Also was on meds for 10 years. Trying so hard to stay drug free but it's tough.

LEMtheoriginal Thu 12-Oct-17 17:12:21

One thing you must learn robot is that you are NOT shit!! I know how easy it is to listen to those voices that tell you these things. I need to take my own advice there but it's important.

FrankiesKnuckle Thu 12-Oct-17 17:25:32


A recent diagnosis of mild depression and severe anxiety here, mainly brought on by family and circumstances surrounding....
lots of CBA days, but thankfully many positives too. I’m starting counseling in 2 weeks, which I am quite apprehensive about as I’m fully aware I could get a lot worse before I get better. It took me a long time, years in fact, to reach out for help and that alone has helped me.

LEMtheoriginal Thu 12-Oct-17 21:53:37

Hi Frankie - hopefully the counselling will help.

I need to go again but I'm very negative just now. I seem to go from one crisis to another

elland Thu 12-Oct-17 22:01:37

Hi everyone, can I join?

I’ve been struggling for a while, up and down and back again. It started the day I found out I was pregnant and he’s now 10 months old - when I look back I feel so guilty that I’ve not been the best parent that I could be and even now I’m struggling with that “bond” everyone talks about. God I feel so bloody shit- Period hormones are pushing me up to my edge ☹️ I can just cope the other 3 weeks of the month.

SmileAndNod Thu 12-Oct-17 22:10:26

Hello I'm here! Thanks for the tag. How has today been LEM?

I can't switch off even though I'm tired. My brain is whirring. So glad it's nearly the weekend. Weather is nice so we may go to the beach. Beaches are my happy places.

I too am trying hard not to go back on to ADs. I put on 4 stone and have no idea if it will ever come back off. Think I've only lost about 8lbs since I stopped in May but it's better than nothing.

I'm also having cbt and I'm finding that odd. I just can't seem to change my way if r thinking and all of the grounding techniques seem a bit well - not practical.

PhoenixMama Thu 12-Oct-17 22:13:30

Hi all - I have anxiety, depression & ptsd. I’m feeling ok today but have had a ROUGH two weeks.

Why are pps avoiding meds & therapy? I couldn’t get out of bed without meds. If you had asthma would you refuse an inhaler?

That said if you asked me last week I would have told you that none of it was worth it & I didn’t see the point. Both meds & therapy made a huge change in how I feel this week.

LEMtheoriginal Thu 12-Oct-17 22:13:47

Have you spoken to your health visitor/gp? I found antidepressants helped me greatly with PND. I left it too long to ask for help though and it wasn't diagnosed until dd was 3. Don't suffer in silence - there are no rules about "bonds" and you will I'm sure (as you are now) be a great mum. A friend of mine had terrible PND and didn't believe her child was her baby! But they have a fantastic relationship now and she is what I call a "proper mum".

It really does help to see other people's experience as I think we can empathise but also see that actually we are OK. We really do put one foot in front of the other and even though it's like wading through treacle we do it.

LEMtheoriginal Thu 12-Oct-17 22:17:32

Phoenix that is a fair question. For me I out on four stone on Ads and have lost 2 of those now I've stopped. I feel it is something I can have some control over and I don't want to lose that. I also found that I was pretty numb on the meds. I didn't have meltdowns but I never EVER laughed.

FrankiesKnuckle Thu 12-Oct-17 22:43:10

LEM, can I ask, what can I expect from counselling? Do I just sit there and let all come out? Do they engage in conversation?
I really don’t know what to expect...
what I do know is that I need to offload some very traumatic events, to make peace with my past to help my present and future, to understand and to let go, to quell this inner rage - oh I sound so bloody dramatic!
I just hope I’m doing the right thing I guess.
I hope you sleep well and have a better tomorrow.

PhoenixMama Thu 12-Oct-17 22:55:10

Lem - surely that just means you need to change your meds? I gained a shitload of weight on my ad’s but I’d rather be fat than crazy any day!

PhoenixMama Thu 12-Oct-17 23:01:44

Frankie - what kind of therapy is it? There’s a huge range in what’s on offer.

I personally hate CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) - I’m too analytical for it. It works for minor issues but not big ones or trauma.

I really really like Transactional Analysis. It just makes sense to me.

I dislike Schema - ok so I know I have some of the schemas but why won’t you tell me what to do about it!

I also like Cognitive Analytical Therapy (CAT). This is like CBT but it looks at WHY you behave the way you do and how you can fix it.

I’ve had psychoanalytic therapy as well which I found hugely helpful after a trauma.

And now I’m having EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation & Reprogramming) which I also call “weird voodoo shit” but it’s definitely working. It’s more for trauma & PTSD though.

Shit - reading that back makes me sound like I’ve studied them rather than just been exposed to them shock

PhoenixMama Thu 12-Oct-17 23:02:46

Oh and Frankie - I find just having a place to dump all the shit in my head one of the absolute best things about therapy!

LEMtheoriginal Fri 13-Oct-17 19:28:45

How is everyone doing today?

Sodaface Fri 13-Oct-17 21:26:29

Hi Lem, thaifor this thread. I’ve had the worst day in ages, cried all day long and just couldn’t cope today. I’ve had depression/anxiety/ptsd for the last 4 years and it isn’t getting any better despite the ads & therapy.

Hope your all feeling a bit better today?!

How was your cream tea LEM? am on a diet at the min so I’ll just imagine the cream tea 🍵 yummy.


Nissandriver Fri 13-Oct-17 21:31:12

Hi, can I join. I have been struggling with depression on and off for years. I thought I had left those dark days behind me however I've started to struggle again recently after some poor life decisions/circumstances and have spiralled down into the darkness. Why does this illness have to make everything feel so bleak

Nissandriver Fri 13-Oct-17 21:40:55

And thank you for starting this thread LEM. It's good to know I'm not alone

LEMtheoriginal Sat 14-Oct-17 07:20:48

Cream tea was lovely - I'm supposed to be on a diet too blush

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