My DD's job got on top of her last year, crap hours, being put upon etc. Her sleep pattern went askew because of her hours and the fact that she would spend too much time with her computer after a late night at work = insomnia. She tried sleeping tablets and it seemed to settle, but then she left her job and was put onto Prozac. It didn't work for her and she ended up taking the rest of her packet (only 7 tabs but still!) The GP at the time just gave her more which she flushed away as it scared her how it made her feel.
So fast forward a year and she has hardly left her flat, other than a few visits to the shop, here at xmas and a funeral. She says she is too scared to go out.
The thing is, she spends all night gaming with folk in America, so different time pattern to here in the UK. So she sleeps all day - this is her normal now. She doesn't answer my calls or messages unless I get cross with her.
It came to a bit of a head last weekend because she came over for her birthday and my mum questioned her about what was wrong, she had a panic attack and her BF took her home.
He doesn't help the situation imo. He is enabling this behaviour which he seems to think she will just get over - he told me he played on computer games constantly when he was a teenager and got bored - my DD is not a teenager, she is 27!
She has gone from being a gregarious, friendly, life and soul person who would have a go at everything to a recluse.
The trouble is, I don't think she WANTS to change. Or at least isn't ready - she clings to this fucking game that she plays constantly and the "friends" she has made whilst playing it.
I have suggested that I go to the Dr with her but she is reticent and like she says, all they will do is put her on medication which she doesn't feel safe with.
I find myself having to abandon her because I can't keep nagging at her and forcing her into contact she doesn't feel comfortable with. I worry she thinks I don't love her but I do, so so much but I'm scared of pushing her away completely.
Should I force medical intervention? I am so worried. I am hoping that she does indeed get bored with the game and move on. She tends to throw herself into things to the exclusion of all else and then will drop things and move on.
I don't know whether this is genuine agoraphobia or anxiety induced by too much time online and fucked up sleeping patterns.
I feel that I can force "help" on her until the cows come home but until she is ready, what can I really do?
She knows I'm there for her, but contact seems to upset her, Its killing me - I love her so much .I suffer from anxiety myself so the guilt that I am the reason she is like this is overwhelming.
Can anyone offer me some hope? I'm so worried
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Helping my DD when im not sure she is ready
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TheoriginalLEM · 24/06/2017 23:06
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