It is tough, when you comfort consume the very things that steal your comfort! Can you rename them 'peace stealers'? Just keep referring to them as toxic troublemakers until your brain resides and remembers they don't offer comfort at all?
I know what you mean. I sometimes have a glass of wine to relax me when I am feeling very anxious, which is most of the time at the moment. I know its wrong but at the time it offers comfort . I too need a kick up the arse. I really need to go to docs but just can't do it.
Probably doesn't help that sugar, coffee & alcohol are all addictive! Could you try & find substitutes? Not necessarily direct substitutes although decaf coffee & herbal tea might be a start. I'm thinking more like instead of having a glass of wine do something else with your hands or watch Tva etc. But don't try to give up all three in one go as that's likely to fail. (CBT is cognitive behavioural therapy.)
Have been there OP. Hard to do the right "self care" things sometimes.
I find meditation (Headspace) exercise and fruit/vegetables help!
I usually avoid alcohol, as for me it's really not good the next day, and gradually cut down on caffiene, eg having decaf lots of the time with just one "real" coffee a day, then only occasionally. Haven't yet managed to cut down sugar!
I do this all the time. Last night I binged because I was so tired and miserable, then was up most of the night feeling sick so now feel 10x worse. Add in the self loathing for constantly self sabotaging and it's a vicious cocktail. Wish I had the answers but you're not alone.
I found it helps to put limits in place, or organise things so it is easy. I gave up caffeinated coffee by switching out- kept topping up the coffee tub with decaf and giving it a stir. Eventually, there wasn't any caffeinated in the jar, but it took no will power or effort.
Where I work, I only took green tea bags. So at work I only drink green tea. Again, no effort or will power required.
If you swap out chocolate for one you don't like as much- White chocolate, or a cheap brand, you won't be as tempted.
I have managed to give up comfort eating icecream, by teaching myself it is sugared fat. It really doesn't appeal any more. I'm trying to do the same for crisps, no success yet.
Wine- again, maybe buy cheap and nasty. Or add soda water to it so you drink less.
You'll feel it if you ditch it in one go. Maybe reduce? You don't want the caffeine withdrawal to send you craving sugar and caffeine. Reduce gradually, maybe every other day, or switch to black tea before cutting out completely.