I need to be careful with details as this could easily be outing, but I've woken up to a text from an old friend (one yearly contact-ish for the last 10 years but very close before that for the previous 5 years).
She has sent a text as a plea for help, asking someone to be non judgemental and let her cry and just allow her to be held. A quick look on FB suggests she may have broken up with her partner of about 5 years.
To make things worse she's in a foreign country - a very far away one (alone I think - exbf lived there too but not sure of where he is now).
I've text her this morning but no reply. I saved her life several times many years ago both physically after she tried to commit suicide twice, and emotionally spending endless hours supporting her and being at the end of the phone. She spent some time in an inpatient unit and recovered well and has been stable since then.
Don't know why I'm posting really. But words of wisdom are gratefully recieved.
I don't have money, so that's a non starter! Her dad died last year, which was a huge shock to the family. The family are fairly well off, so I would be surprised if it was a financial thing.
I care about her, yes. I was actually Wendied by her - I introduced her to my best friend at the time who lived about 150 miles away and they became close. Her exboyfriend is a mutual friend and she was a bridesmaid at my old best friends wedding (I was not invited).
I asked her if she was free for me to call but no reply. I could call her but we haven't spoken over the phone probably for about 3 years. I just can't believe she hasn't got anyone else to turn to at this time - unless it's because she's broken up with the bf and most of her friends are mutual with his...
I don't think so- her ex was working in this country. She did an extended visit at the end of last year and then returned a few weeks ago for education reasons - the country is ahead, time wise and not one which is particularly touristy, or with a big expat community generally. I could call her mum but DP is saying don't get involved.
I'm a nurse for goodness sake. This is at the core of everything I do!
I spent the evening talking to her. She's had a rough time lately which ended in a suicide attempt on Sunday night. She thought her attempt would kill her as that was absolutely her intention.
She saw the psych liaison nurse on Sunday night when she was taken to A&E and she saw another nurse on Monday night. She has her psychiatric crisis appointment today, so I'm going to combine a trip to see my family with seeing her today and tomorrow.
She's not overseas anymore - she went to do a course but said her anxiety was crippling and she had to return home without even starting.
I have a lot of love for this woman. We have known each other for 12 years, and though we don't talk frequently it's just like old times when we do.