Sorry if this is a long one but just wondering if anyone can relate. In reality I have not much to worry about, nice home, family, enough money etc and I muddle along quite nicely most of the time but every so often something upsets me and I quickly become quite obsessed with it and think about it constantly. I want to talk about what's bothering me all the time and want to be reassured that everything will be ok. When I get the reassurance I am happy for a while but it's still on my mind nearly all of the time.It's usually things I have no control over, e.g. I posted on the higher education section about my current worry and I was thrilled with the reassurance I got from a couple of the posters and grateful for the practical advice I got from the others. Still it's on my mind though and I can't shake the "what if" scenarios.
But anyway, although I feel the need to talk, I don't/can't in real life. Except to Dh who is good but does not just tell me it will be ok (he is not a worrier and must be tired of me) and I don't talk to friends in detail about my worries as I feel stupid worrying about things that they would probably just shrug off and not let it affect their lives so much. I don't want to burden my mum, who is in her late 70's and I don't want to appear pathetic. So I bottle things up ☹️
What can I do to stop being like this. I don't want to go to the docs as I don't want medication for something that is not constant. I've had a short course of telephone cbt but didn't engage with it. I want to relax and go with the flow and not dwell on things and make myself, at times, sick with worry.
I'm very well read on the subject of anxiety and know what I should be doing to help myself but cannot seem to put it into practice. Maybe I should look into some other kind of therapy.
Thanks for reading these ramblings.
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Overthinking and the need for talk/reassurance -what's wrong with me?
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Redfluffysocks · 18/05/2017 10:05
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