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Being signed off with stress

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user1494163814 · 07/05/2017 17:37

I have a lot on my plate right now- I am pregnant and my husband is having heart surgery. Die to financial situations beyond our control my husband is moving to Northern Ireland (we currently live in England) with our little boy to have and recover from surgery (we have family support there and none here) so I will be commuting at weekends and living with a friend here (we have to give up or rented house as I can't afford it alone). I am braking down in tears about it all the time, I can't sleep, I can't concentrate. Has anyone been in a similar situation? I think I would get signed off by my dr's with stress but I would need to see my GP regularly wouldn't I?! I also need to have my antenatal spots where ever my GP is registered. I will be taking my maternity leave on Northern Ireland and moving back as a family after. So at some point will need to change my GP to Northern Ireland anyway. Totally at a loss with what to do right now. I can't talk to hubby about it as he is so stressed or about his surgery in a couple of weeks time. Thank you for taking the time to read this

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ihatethecold · 07/05/2017 17:41

I had the whole of March of due to stress.
My gp signed my form and didn't ask to see me again unless I needed her.

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Emphasise · 07/05/2017 17:44

My dsis was signed off with "stress due to family illness" and didn't see her gp again until her DS was well and back at school

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Chasingsquirrels · 07/05/2017 17:48

My GP signed me off with stress for 6 weeks initially (my husband was terminally ill) and then a further 4 weeks following a brief telephone call - my previous certificate would have run out on the day of his funeral and she just said she'd write another one.

I hope your husband's surgery goes well and he has a quick recovery .

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NolongerAnxiousCarer · 07/05/2017 18:59

When DH was ill a few years ago I went to stay with my parents down south and was able to see a GP there as a visitor who continued my sick notes with no problem when I explained. (My own GP initially said he could do one from a phone consultation then refused when it came to it) I wonder if this would be the same in NI?

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2014newme · 07/05/2017 19:02

Will you get sick pay or just ssp?

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erinaceus · 07/05/2017 19:06

My GP's surgery issues sick notes if you submit your request in writing by email, without an appointment being necessary, depending on the situation. Similar to pp I think this would be after an initial appointment at which your GP agreed with you that you were not fit to work.

In terms of moving to NI you could ask your old GP to write directly to your new one to give an outline of your situation if you were concerned about the continuity of the sick notes.

Sorry to hear that you can't talk to your husband. Do you have anyone else you can talk to in RL?

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user1494163814 · 07/05/2017 20:36

Thank you everyone for your responses. I am So sorry for your loss chasingsquirrels,
I can not imagine what you are going through. I feel much better knowing that there is the option to having a little time off to be with my husband while we get him through the surgery. I know I should be able to talk to him, but as it gets closer I know he is worrying more and more which I don't think want to add too. Once again thank you for all your help and kind words