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Ineverpromisedyouarosegarden Mon 03-Apr-17 16:04:48

I was wondering if anyone could offer any help on this.

I have started counselling and have got on pretty well. Have had six sessions and although my life is and will be very stressful with long term sick child and two SN children I had been doing really well. However after the last session I feel really cross with the counsellor. Can't put my finger on why and I feel like not going back.

I don't know if he hit on something that I am not ready to talk about or he just irritated me. So do I tell him or just not go back? He has been really good up to now. It's private and I pay if that makes a difference but he is qualified, registered and experienced.

Thanks in advance.

CharliesSister Mon 03-Apr-17 18:06:35

I think it would be a bit premature to not go back at this point, make a note of how you feel; see if you can figure out why and then go back with an open mind.
You may notice it again, and perhaps figure out what it is, and you can either address it with him or make a more informed choice later on.

It could be something that will affect the counselling in the long run, or it could simply be a blip on that day.
You've already invested 6 sessions with this guy, and have been getting on well so I think its worth seeing it out for at least another 2 sessions or so.

NolongerAnxiousCarer Mon 03-Apr-17 20:12:28

I would go, and give him another go, and tell him how you felt after this session. It may be useful for him to know in order ho help you move forward.

Woollymammoth63 Mon 03-Apr-17 20:56:34

Hi , have been there , and I think it's really common. It's to do with your own issues coming to the fore, maybe a pattern played out in the past or in other relationships, or unresolved feelings, or a therapy issue such as you feel things aren't being addressed properly, or discomfort from feeling too exposed and vipulnerable. Obviously, if you feel it's the therapists style or lack of understanding of a sensitive topic, also tell him. I have experienced all of the above, and have told the therapist, who has then responded by healing addressing the problem and being completely open about it.
Be honest, be as emotionally open as you can be, and wait for the response.

Ineverpromisedyouarosegarden Wed 05-Apr-17 09:27:13

Ok thanks. I have decided I will go back.

Ineverpromisedyouarosegarden Mon 10-Apr-17 17:47:36

I just wanted to update for anyone lurking and needing help. I went back and it was a really helpful session.

It's can be that you are ready to talk about something challenging but you are unsure of how it will be received.

NolongerAnxiousCarer Mon 10-Apr-17 19:57:41

Glad to hear it went well smile

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