I was seeing a therapist (therapist 1) through work the end of last year gor PTSD, I had about 6 or 7 appointments, which left me feeling worse and worse. When I explained why I wanted to stop seeing him he said he thought maybe it wasn't the right time for me to work with him and left it open for me to book in for furthur appointments if I wanted to. He seemed pretty confident that I would be back.
I then saw therapist 2 privately. Therapist 2 was excellent and made a huge difference in only 1 appointment, he didn't think I would be likely to need any follow up, but was happy to see me again if I felt I needed it. From a PTSD point of view my symptoms haven't returned and whist I know there are still some difficult issues with regards to DHs illness, generally I feel good.
I'm now waiting to see therapist 3 jointly with DH for family therapy with regards to his diagnosis and its impact on both of us.
I was reading something last night which was explaining what transference was and how important it was in therapy. It suddenly clicked that one of the reasons I struggled with therapist 1 so much was how much he reminded me of my DM, and not in a good way. I've had therapy years ago regarding my childhood and relationship with DM and thought I'd dealt with those issues.
My immediate thought was to go back to therapist 1 and share my realisation, immediately. But then my rational brain is saying that if he was actually any good and this was important, he would have helped me to realise what was going on at the time I was seeing him.
So would it be better to take these insights to therapist 2? Or to see if therapist 3 looks at these issues as part of those sessions. Or just register these thoughts and not do anything with them as such. Or is this really not relevant or important.
I think that one of the reasons that I feel inclined to go back to therapist 1 is that he made it so clear that he was expecting me to need to go back to him. I'm not sure if this was arrogance on his part or if he saw something in me that needed longer term therapy. He came highly reccommended by collegues, so I susspect he's good at certain stuff, but felt he handled my PTSD really badly.
Just wondering if anyone had any insights.
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NolongerAnxiousCarer · 30/03/2017 19:34
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