Just need to unburden. sorry this is long.
My child is a adopted. Adopted by me, a single parent. my only child.
Prior to adoption child was severely abused by birth family in every way.
Reports and evidence show childs blood history is full of MH issues- ASD,Autism, ODD, plus phsycopaths/murderers/rapists/drug addicts/heavy drinkers,/DV and lots more (trying not to give too many details as don't want to out myself). On both sides.
So my poor child has inherited all this and more. Including FASD.
Adopted child when child was 5. I thought with love, nurturing and a good solid Christian upbringing child would somehow be calmer and not as bad. child has lifelong disabilities (some physical too). but child always been very strong, and 2 days ago, attacked me.
carried on attacking me and trashed the house. I had to call police for my own safety. police were very understanding ad they could see I was a decent person. they tried calling for social services and were completely fobbed off. SS didn't want to know.
I told them ive had this all DCs life, they said SS and Camhs and the like are USELESS. and they have obviously failed us big time.
been aggressive before but never violent. Nothing set DC off, DCs mood swings are like a light switch.
(I had to end up taking DC out of special needs school as even they couldn't cope. DC is private schoolled now and has learning age of a 5 year old (DC is 17 now).)
DC just cannot be taken to a physcriatic centre, DC has too many intimate/allergies/dietry needs.
last time DC was 'looked after' by someone ina care place they abused DC too.
police said DC is NOT a criminal, they can see that a mile off, But a police cell is not the place-all DC needs is to hear druggies/junkies/thugs swearing and shouting etc.
hospital says theres nothing wrong with DC when DC has official diagonis of many MH issues. so called professionals !
I have no one in the world to help me, and I am trying my best not to let DC see I am now petrified of DC. Im walking on eggshells around DC and trying to keep as calm as possible but this cant go on.
and DC needs my care I care full time for DC.
the services Ive contacted are - well-useless is a compliment. they are shit, and im scared DC is going to injure me so much DC may kill me.
and DC cant fend at all for themselves im scared if something happens to me DC will end up dying from total lack of care and awareness. I could be knocked out and DC will just sit there and vegetate to death. (happened once when I was knocked out for about an hour and when I came to DC was doing exactly same as before, just looking at a picture book)..
OT, or any other phycriatic services just cant get through to DC. no one can. God knows Ive been trying all these years. DC has lifelong issues and I love DC so much and yet Im fearing for my life and DCs too.
If anyone reads this and suggests me contacting anyone, I can guarantee you Ive been there, done that. we are on our own.
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My poor child is NOT a criminal. major MH issues. End of mytether.
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DalekBred · 29/03/2017 16:24
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