I've posted about my mother before under another name. To try and briefly summarise, she has had depression and anxiety all my life and probably well before (so 50 years+) and has a wretched life of seeing noone and doing nothing, from one month to the next.
She will only communicate by text with me and her sisters. She manages to come and see me and her GC on average twice a year, despite living only 4 or 5 miles from us. She loves children, is fantastic with them and would dearly love to see them more, but can't. We can't go to her house. I've not been inside it for nearly 4 years now, and she didn't allow me in her last place for the last 11 years before she moved.
I am getting increasingly concerned about what this all means, going forward. She is getting older and I worry about her not letting anyone into the house, if she took ill or had a fall or something. She's 70 but seems a lot older. The last two times she's visited she has also smelled terribly of urine and I'm fairly sure she still hasn't got a replacement washing machine – hers broke probably a year or 18 months ago and I'm guessing she's just too terrified to allow someone in her house to install a new one. She wouldn't even consider letting me help her with this.
I feel I need to tell her GP and/or psychologist (I think she has one at the moment, but she's had so many different treatments and doctors over the years that I'm not sure, and she will barely talk about any of her medical stuff).
Has anyone done this with a relative, and how do you go about it? I'm obviously not looking for any details or information FROM her practitioners, I know it's all confidential –I just want to express my concerns and have things noted down. I feel her 'normal' is so far from normal that she probably plays down a lot of things when she's talking to them herself.
Any advice?
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My mother –I want to take this further
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greengrowtherashes · 12/02/2017 13:28
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