Help I'm falling for my psychologist

[Ohbuddyhell]

I know he's off bounds - not least because we're both married even though for me it's unhappily before I even get started on how innapropriate it is and I know it's purely transference (I've heard of this happening, Iv googled it too) but now I keep thinking of him, I'm scared to bring it up because the rejection will hurt but I'm worried it's getting in the way of my progress, equally though I don't want to have to get another psych

I just wish I could find a man like him in real life but they don't exist do they? He's just doing his job being so understanding

Has this happened to anyone else? How do you get past it?

[AnxiousCarer]

I don't have personal experience of this, but I do believe that it's very common. I would imagine that your psychologist should be trained in how to deal with this in a way to help you move on in therapy.

As for real life there are some good ones out there but no ones perfect and I expect he can be a paid in the bum when he's not being paid to listen to you too!

[Ohbuddyhell]

I expect he can and I know it's not real but in comparison to what I get from DH he makes me feel worth listening to and not stupid for being who I am right now

Tbh Iv isolated myself so much that other than DH he is literally the only man I have contact with. I've never had a handsome man therapist before - always been mumsy older women

I just keep fantasising about him and over analysing little things he's said that

[AnxiousCarer]

Maybe you've hit the nail on the heaf and the real issue is wanting to feel heard by DH, maybe you could discuss it from that point of view rather than coming straight out with telling him you fancy him.

I've seen a few male therapists/CPNs but none I've fancied, my psychologist was a bit arogant tbh.