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emdr therapists london for traumatic bereavement

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godhelpmeplease Wed 11-Jan-17 20:31:11

I am looking for an emdr therapist in London. It is for my (adult) daughter who has gone to pieces after the recent death of her dog in horrendous cirumstances. A few people on here have said this therapy can be good for traumatic bereavement and in the days since this happened I've taken her to A& E, GP, psychotherapist, Crisis something or other.
Each and every one of them told her to go somewhere else, eg. psychotherapist told her to get antidepressants from GP, A & E told her to go to GP (she is feeling suicidal), GP told her to go to therapist or Cruse (where she'll only be able to go in about 6 weeks), Crisis told her to call back when she was 'less stressed'. etc.
Any suggestions or names of EMDR therapists in London gratefully received.

AnxiousCarer Thu 12-Jan-17 19:18:53

Hi I've not got any named details, however wanted to share my experience of EMI (eye movement integration) which is similar to EMDR, but described as gentler. I found this amazing resolving my PTSD in 1 session. It may help you widen your search for a therapist.

My personal experience with trauma was that talking therapy with a psychologist made things worse for me, I felt like it just reinforced the traumatic episode, although I have found councelling helpful for other issues in the past.

godhelpmeplease Tue 17-Jan-17 11:04:51

Many thanks for the suggestion Anxious, I hadn't heard of EMI. My daughter had a session with a talking therapist and found it worse than hopeless. There is the trauma element here of the cricumstances of the death which I feel is in addition to the grief aspect.

picklemepopcorn Tue 17-Jan-17 11:17:08

I'm so sorry, that must be dreadful.
No details, just a helpful little bump.

languagelearner Tue 17-Jan-17 16:19:12

I'm certainly no expert but couldn't one way to work it through be to go to a dog shelter and meet with some puppies? I have a bad experience from any therapists, am sceptical to counselling, assume waiting lists are overly long, etc. etc.

godhelpmeplease Thu 19-Jan-17 14:09:57

Thanks for the bump pickle, much appreciated.
language, I think that in the longer term contact with dogs, especially ones in need, would helpful but for now it's too soon, dd is too distraught

picklemepopcorn Thu 19-Jan-17 14:59:28

I do hope you find someone. It should be possible, it's becoming better known.

Secondtimesally Thu 19-Jan-17 15:08:24

I saw William Devine in St Margaret's near Richmond. He did EMDR with me for a phobia and I went back for further talking therapy last year. He's expensive but excellent. Pm me if you'd like more details.
Sorry to hear about your daughter and her dog flowers

Secondtimesally Thu 19-Jan-17 15:10:20

And the therapy really works. Was terrified of childbirth and have breezed through both induced vaginal and Caesarian

jcne Thu 19-Jan-17 20:52:18

sad no advice but how awful, I'm sorry for your daughter

godhelpmeplease Mon 23-Jan-17 23:04:32

thank you sally for the recommendation which I will look into -things have only got worse- and to jcne for your sympathy.

GuinefortGrey Tue 24-Jan-17 09:15:29

Not London, but I had treatment with a psychologist specialising in trauma and EMDR called Dr Bridget Bodill in Swindon. She was extremely kind and I'm sure if you can google an email address for her then she would be able to recommend something.

Meantime, with your daughter being in such a dreadful acute state, I really think the GP should be offering some short term assistance to help her "numb" the pain a little so she can get some rest and head space to come to terms with the shock. I was prescribed diazepam and strong sleeping pills when my DH died in an accident (although for my own reasons I chose not to take them). It sounds as though you may need to push for them to take your daughter' experience seriously flowers

GuinefortGrey Tue 24-Jan-17 09:17:14

Sorry I meant to say, I'm sure Dr Bodill will be able to recommend a good London based practitioner in the same field.

Welshgirl40 Tue 24-Jan-17 09:21:40


godhelpmeplease Fri 27-Jan-17 22:19:30

Thanks for the bump and the recommendation. I will try asking Dr Bodill as the two I've tried so far can't take on anyone else right away. I agree that the gp could have prescribed a tranquiliser but my daughter won't see her anymore. Meanwhile, obviously as a result of the grief and trauma she's also come down with pneumonia which strangely enough she got after her father died at 15 - she's getting better and in a strange way the physical discomfort is temporarily numbing her. But it will pass sooner or later and then I worry about the shock and grief coming back worse than ever so I want to have someone ready for her to see.
Thank you so much for the support

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