I've been attending a self help group for mums with PND and their babies for the past 4 months and I thought i'd been slowly starting to feel better and less isolated, meeting other mums in the same position. The group ends this week and as my daughter turns one next month I thought I would take the opportunity to invite two of the mums and babies to a small birthday for her. Well neither of them can make it, and I was only going to invite two other babies, as I don't know many people. I was also going to invite some close family members but now i'm just feeling so low and dispirited about the whole thing, i'm wondering if I should just cancel it.
I'm so annoyed because I got the impression they were both just making excuses and the party was only going to last an hour, its not like it's going to take up their whole weekend! She's only going to turn 1 once and I so wanted her to have other babies there. I know its a bit silly to feel this way as its not like kids play together at this age but still... I thought we were becoming friends and now i realise I was kidding myself.
During this PND self help group we've been told over and over again by the psychotherapist who runs the group that we need to be there for each other and exchange phone numbers and meet up once the group ends as we were all feeling pretty isolated in the beginning. What i don't understand is, given this fact, why they don't both want to make more of an effort, esp as it's a baby's first birthday. i know i could try and reschedule so that they can make it but i just felt like whatever date I try and change it to they'll probably make some excuse or other. All that guff about positive thinking i've had to listen to over the past few weeks is starting to look pretty pointless. as for the other two babies i was going to invite, well one of their mums has pretty much ditched me, and i don't know why, it was one of those 'yeah i'll email you' situations. and the other one, well it would be pretty pointless just having one other baby there. I know i sound really self centred and horrible, i don't think i am really but i just don't want my daughter to end up lonely and friendless like me, i want things to be different for her, but if people just don't like us, maybe i should just stop trying.
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Mental health
My daughter turns one next month and i'm feeling really low with PND
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Lucy81 · 21/02/2007 15:32
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