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Mental Health... how to get help asap

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OnNaturesCourse Tue 03-Jan-17 23:51:04

Hi all.

Little background first..
1) I was put at risk of redundancy last year which set what my partner calls my "money OCD" into overdrive. I wasn't sleeping right and spent weeks pouring over budgets even though deep down I knew we'd be OK.
2) I managed to get redeployed in the company after a successful interview. The job seemed OK at a glance and I jumped into to get rid of the impending doom feeling id had since getting the redundancy notice.
3) The training on the new job was meant to be 6 weeks which ran alongside the training time. The training overran but I had to decided to keep the role or not, as my old role was already removed by that point I took the new role. Fast forward another 4 months and I'm still not fully trained and can not do the job or support the team I am in. I've built up such a resentment to the role (I'm the only one who hasn't had the full training yet) and I am feeling completely useless and I've got myself convinced that I can not do the role anymore. I wish I had refused the job after trail and taken the redundancy payment but I can't now. If I leave now I get nothing.
4) I have underlying health issues which have flared up and are scaring the crap out of me but I am petrified that people think I am over reacting. I keep hearing comments of 'dont worry" and "you'll be fine" or my favorite... "you've had similar before" I am currently awaiting referral which will mean a weekly visit to the hospital for approximately 3 months and then a monthly visit for 6 months after. The treatment is very personal whereby they shove a tube up your lady parts to your bladder. It is uncomfortable and awkward ... even thinking about it sends me off on a tizz!

I think I could handle each point on its own but combined I am just not coping. My partner and I have recently started TTC too and I'm thinking I am going to have to put it off until my head is straight.

I have been on 2.5 week annual leave and slowly in that time my mood swings have reduced, my headaches have cleared, the pain in my shoulder blade has gone but I've started (in the last week) to get heart flutters, moments of complete unreasonable panic, my heart randomly races and I break out in sweats. ongoing I still have a problem locking onto negatives and going over and over it in my head... I can never see positives. My head is complete doom and I am constantly on edge for what might happen.

I thinking, as stupid as it sounds, it's all a bit much for me. I am hoping to see a doctor tomorrow as I think I may have some anxiety about my health and strss about my work... I'd really like their support as I just can't keep being like this. l feel like life is passing me by and I'm constantly thinking I'm going to die soon / have something happen.

My question is (sorry about the rant) how do I approach the topic with my GP? Like is "help, I'm not coping" something you can say...

Im worried they will think I'm being over dramatic. Like seriously worried. Like getting myself in a state over it, whenever I think of GPs or work I lose my breath and my heart beats rapid.

Does anyone have similar symptoms? Is it stress? anxious?

Someone help/put my mind at rest.

Testificateman Wed 04-Jan-17 00:27:53

Yes. Go to your doctor and say "help". Stress and anxiety can cause all sorts of problems like headache and other symptoms.
Tell your doctor exactly what you have said on here.
At work, ask your line manager for any extra training, they might be ok with you and help
Try not to worry too much and good luck.

OnNaturesCourse Wed 04-Jan-17 00:31:03

thank you.

work is scary as they are letting staff go and I'm scared my health will make them find a way to get rid of me

Testificateman Wed 04-Jan-17 07:37:55

Don't let on that it's effecting your health, just ask for extra training.

OnNaturesCourse Wed 04-Jan-17 08:12:38

so I should hide it? it's not extra training, it's simply training which is not yet complete but should be.

OnNaturesCourse Wed 04-Jan-17 08:12:38

so I should hide it? it's not extra training, it's simply training which is not yet complete but should be.

Testificateman Wed 04-Jan-17 10:25:30

Work don't really need to know yet. You need to speak to your doctor first. You do need to ask your line manager for the rest of your training then. Tell him/her that you feel like your letting your team down because you haven't finished your training and see how it goes.

Testificateman Wed 04-Jan-17 10:26:28

Have you managed to make an appointment with your doctor yet?

FoxesSitOnBoxes Wed 04-Jan-17 10:32:27

My take on this is that work is the cause of the anxiety here and that counselling/antidepressants (realistically the medical options available) will not really help anything until you discuss the situation with work and it inproves. I'd talk to work sooner rather than later. You don't have to tell them about the anxiety but they need to complete your training
Hope it all gets sorted out soon flowers

OnNaturesCourse Wed 04-Jan-17 15:12:17

I'm not long back from doctors

They agree it is work stress but also state I have anxiety about upcoming treatment. They have signed me off work for two weeks as I also have a UTI going on. Been advised to relax and look into some mindset activities online hmm

If I'm not feeling better before returning to work I've to go back to them as it's unlikely that my medical treatment will have started by then (relates to my current UTI)

Thank you for your support!
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