DH was the victim of quite a brutal, unprovoked attack. It was on the way back from the morning school run, so daylight, on a route he uses a lot. Bruises are pretty much gone now, stitches due out soon, he's recovering well physically.
But, he is obviously very shaken up, he's flicking between being really angry and frankly quite nasty and then really upset and frightened.
He's not eating, he's barely slept, when he does sleep he tosses and turns and shouts and wakes up in tears, or like last night he fell asleep on the chair and I went to put a blanket over him and he covered his face with arms like he was expecting me to hit him and started crying, it was horrible. When we're out any loud noises/shouting makes him jump and the other day 8yr old DD had a strop and shouted at me and slammed her bedroom door and I found DH curled up on the floor in our room shaking and crying his eyes out.
There have been a few times he's watching something or he's read something and he starts on about all these really violent things he'd do if he was there, with this really horrible look on his face. Which just isn't like him. When it happened he froze up and couldn't defend himself and I think he's ashamed (which is ridiculous, there were 4 of them)
I tried suggesting he ask the gp about counselling, that did not go down well, I won't repeat the whole rant but it boiled down to 'im not crazy, I don't need help'
Im trying my best to be there for him but each time I see him upset, once he calms down he's really spiteful, I have PTSD from completely unrelated things, and he brings it tells me he's not as weak as me and stuff. I can see what he's doing, he's ashamed to admit how he feels 'coz real men don't cry' and mental healths this whole taboo (fucking MIL and her stupid views) but it still hurts
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DH - Don't know how to help him
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SparklyUnicornPoo · 20/11/2016 01:27
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