I had severe PND a few years ago now. My best friend in the world, who I've known almost all my life, disappeared off the face of the earth. She only knew I was in hospital because a family member called to tell her. Never visited, sent the obligatory text saying she hoped I was feeling better.
I was hurt that she never even called me during those awful months after I was discharged. After I'd recovered and was feeling much better I decided to leave it all in the past. I never mentioned how I felt about being effectively abandoned when the going got tough.
Fast forward to now and I'm just coming out of a horrific bout of anxiety and depression, it came out of nowhere and floored me. It's only the second time in my life this has happened.
This time around I did tell best friend straight "I'm feeling dreadful." Again, minimal contact and nothing over the last month. I'm lucky to have a very supportive husband and family and other friends have been wonderful. I'm not looking for free counselling or hours to pour my woes out, and other people have really show their good hearts. Sending texts a few times a week or calling to see how I'm doing, gently but firmly suggesting we meet for a cuppa to get me out of the house. Showing some interest in the fact that I'm not my usual self at all and need to lean on them a little which I generally don't ever do when I'm feeling "right". One colleague even took my child out for the afternoon so I could have a rest. They've been so kind and I am very appreciative.
Now I'm feeling much better, thankfully, but that hurt is back over my supposed closest friend who's gone NC again.
I know it's very hard for someone who's never suffered with their mental health to understand what it feels like. I've never suffered from cancer, thank goodness, yet I'd never disappear on a friend who was.
I'm wondering if this is a normal reaction, if anyone else has experienced being dropped like a hot potato when their mental health deteriorated? Maybe I'm taking it too personally?
I know I am so lucky to have other support but I don't think I'm able to leave this incident in the past again.
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cleopatraseyebrows · 30/10/2016 16:08
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