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When will the pain go away?

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LifeBeginsNow Tue 25-Oct-16 05:20:36

I'm struggling with the pain tonight and hardly had any sleep. I just want to be better and I'm really finding it hard to accept how long it's taking to recover.

My baby will be up soon and I just don't know how I can face the day. My husband is working nights at the moment and I barely get any quality time with him as he's so busy and when he's home is tired out.

I'm probably just having a blip but feel so low and just think this sets the tone of the day now. I just want to be pain free. It's so depressing having it all the time. I have to alter everything I do in case it hurts. Even getting dressed in the morning hurts. Some nights I don't even change into pjs as I don't want the extra pain.

I'm so low. I wish something would help.

Dizzywizz Tue 25-Oct-16 05:56:50

Hi Life, sorry to hear you are struggling. Is the pain a mental health inside type pain, or is it a physical disorder? This may be asking the obvious, but are you on meds?

LifeBeginsNow Tue 25-Oct-16 07:45:19

Thank you for your reply. Its physical pain but it's led on to depression and anxiety.

The baby did wake up but I took him into bed with me and he let me have an hours sleep. It would have been longer but I woke in pain again.

Can you believe my anxiety is playing up because I've got a tesco delivery coming and I'm panicking about being up and ready in time. The anxiety makes the pain worse.

I'm on anti depressants but I found no benefit to most painkillers. They didn't seem to touch it so I'm just taking paracetamol and ibruprofen.

BecauseIamaBear Tue 25-Oct-16 08:32:41

What is the underlying cause of the physical pain? My DP recently had shingles. That is over but the pain is still lingering.

upthegardenpath Tue 25-Oct-16 08:37:50

I like your username - it's positive and sounds like like you're person who wants to get on with life and grab it by the horns smile
Pain is horrible, it's exhausting and distracting, isn't it?
You need a plan: what the of pain is it, can it be resolved, if so-how? Who can help you with this? Acupuncture is amazing for many types of chronic pain.
Your state of mind is so important - you are strong and battling this makes you feel like you're not - but you are!
It sound like you need to talk to somebody you really trust - somebody who can help you manage the thoughts and the anxiety. Do you have a close friend, or family member, to whom you can turn?
Please don't struggle alone - you can do this and you will be better smile

LifeBeginsNow Tue 25-Oct-16 16:55:45

Thank you for replying. I probably should have explained what the pain is but felt people might be sick of hearing about it as I've commented and posted before (probably an irrational worry).

It's pelvic girdle pain/SPD as a result of pregnancy. I just never expected it to still be hurting after the baby was born. I've tried tramadol and morphene but didn't think either helped so stopped. I'm just using paracetamol and ibruprofen now.

Last week I had some good days but since the weekend it's flared up. I'm supposed to be positive and remember that I didn't even have a good minute a few months ago so I have come a long way.

I think keeping busy helps but after such an awful sleep and it being morning which is generally more painful, I think it all got on top of me.

My username was created while pregnant (and in pain) and was my attempt to be positive. I'm confident I will look back on this period in the future and be amazed I was able to get through it and at the same time have a very happy baby.

I've had visitors today and it's been great having others to talk to. I just wish there was something to take the pain away though so I can be a better mummy.

Wolfiefan Tue 25-Oct-16 16:57:58

What has your GP suggested about the pain? Have you seen a physio? My first pg I had PGP. My second I was initially diagnosed with the same but weirdly it was a back issue. Pain is rubbish. With anxiety and depression it is shit.

LifeBeginsNow Tue 25-Oct-16 18:36:39

My GP is sympathetic (she had it too) but I get the impression from her and the physio that time is the healer with this.

I go to the physio every 2 weeks and am given new exercises to add. The more mobile I am, the better it is and the pain can disappear for a bit. However if I do too much, I can barely move and am in tears.

The depression and anxiety happened because of all this. I've always probably had a touch of anxiety (born worrier) but I could calm myself down as I worked through the issue. Now it seems I just spiral with one negative thought after the next. This in turn causes shooting pains down my legs which cause me to seize up as I walk.

Sorry I'm so negative. I've been going through this for over a year.

Dizzywizz Tue 25-Oct-16 19:29:37

That sounds terrible. I had bad spd and a chiropractor helped me and physio. Ds2 is now 2, I am still in pain but not so bad and not sure if it's from that or probably mainly from my ms, the physio isn't sure either. Perhaps worth seeing your gp about different types of painkiller to try? But for me, chiropractor and also a massage really help me.

upthegardenpath Thu 03-Nov-16 11:10:11

I have a close friend who went through the same SPD after falling off a horse. Different reason, but same effect...she couldn't even insert a tampon for months it was that bad.
It took her a year of gentle physio, home excercises and lots of acupuncture for pain relief, but she got there in the end and had a vaginal birth too (without problems flaring up again).
It is possible but it is horrible and will take time.
You need the best pain relief to get through it - I would focus on getting that sorted, whether it's acupuncture or something else.
Good luck flowers

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